Several of my clients have come to me with circumstances that have a consistent theme: Their man is a guy who has a value system which is blatantly disrespectful to women and they allow their self-respect to be tested repeatedly by these guys. If a person is disrespectful toward you, that is definitely a problem within the offender. When you allow the disrespect to continue … [Read more...]
3 Things Your Relationship Can’t Withstand
I know here on BMWK, we like to share what you can do to start, grow, build and enhance your relationships. It is also equally important to know the things you shouldn’t do, and even more important the things which are totally unacceptable in relationships. Ignorance of the law is not a defense in court and ignorance of what not to do to someone is not going to save your … [Read more...]
4 Myth-Busters about Valentine’s Day from a Man’s Point of View
Valentine’s Day is a day to honor our mates with symbols of our love and affection. The question becomes is Valentine’s Day a day to celebrate our spouses and significant others or it is a day exploited by Russell Stover’s, FTD and Hallmark? Likely, it’s some of both of those things, which brings us to the topic, what is the reality as opposed to the myths of Valentine’s … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Have Daily Foreplay
Women often share with me they need their men to be more conscious of them throughout the day, which would lead to the intimacy carrying on into the night. As men, we could do some things better that would keep her fire lit. We know that we have to deal with the kids, work, taking care of home, etc., but it’s our job as men to remind her just how beautiful and important she … [Read more...]
5 Different Ideas for a Great Date Night
As Valentine’s Day is fast approaching, I thought it would be a good time to offer some date night ideas. Date nights are important to the health of a marriage and a great way to continue to have fun as often as possible with the person you enjoy the most—your spouse. Planning a date night is also a way to get creative with thinking about different ways to share each other’s … [Read more...]
How the Belly Button Rule is Used to Enhance Communication
Many of the clients I have been working with have had challenges with communication and I think it’s an important topic to discuss. Sometimes, those challenges are tone of voice, lack of paying attention or probably the most difficult to overcome, which is not being able to deliver the message you want your partner to hear. Even the most challenging relationships can take … [Read more...]
How do I Serve Her Better by Putting Her First?
If you haven’t read the book, “The Five Love Languages,” by Dr. Gary Chapman, I suggest it as excellent reading to continue to grow a healthy relationship, or help to heal a broken relationship. While it takes more than a book to build our relationship, one thing is certain, there is action required to serve another human being. There is no way around it. Our narcissistic … [Read more...]
How do We Become Better in our Relationships?
A topic that has come up often recently in my conversations around relationships is about how to effectively become better in our relationships. It’s easy and very safe to say “I want to be a better husband, a better lover or a better father.” How do we truly implement the change to become better in whatever way we would like to improve our relationships? There are two … [Read more...]
5 Things a Husband Should Do for His Wife without Her Having to Ask
As a relatively new husband, I try to do a good job at following my “honey do” list. We’re still merging lives so I’m sure there are times I fall short, but this is a work in progress in which I’m getting better daily. One thing I knew before we got married was that there were some things I would need to handle and not wait on her to ask me to do. [imagebrowser id=310] … [Read more...]
Taking Responsibility Starts with These 3 Steps
As a coach, each client I work with at some point is going to have to take responsibility for their contribution to every situation, good or bad. We see TV shows where coaches and counselors talk about taking ownership of what we have done in our past which may cause detriment to where we are today. I think it’s important to note, especially when dealing with relationships, … [Read more...]
Men, Do You Properly Protect and Serve Your Wife?
There are many relationships where the woman doesn't feel secure. I think there is an instinct in many women to want to feel secure, not only in the context of the relationship, but to feel secure in their livelihood with their spouse. I have heard financial guru Dave Ramsey say that women have a “security gene” that men just don’t have—and I think there is some truth to that. … [Read more...]
Two Steps to Getting on the Same Page Again
One of the more challenging things for my relationship clients is when things simply aren’t going well. They can’t exactly put their finger on the problem, but they know that there is a disconnect somewhere in the relationship. Arguments start that would never have happened before. Long silences happen because for some reason there is nothing to say. The natural tendency is … [Read more...]
‘Til Death (or Drama) Do Us Part
As newlyweds, I think it’s important for us to take it upon ourselves to put in the work to continue to build on the pre-marital counseling my wife and I decided to get. It’s important to us that we are constantly thinking of ways to continue to work on our marriage, even though it is fresh and new. That said, I was in a group that we attend with other married couples and one … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Become a Great Leader, Husband, and Father
During a conversation this week, I was discussing why we have the challenges we have in our community with fatherhood. I talked about how sites such as BMWK lead the charge in making differences in lives and communities. I want to share some thoughts on why we have so many single parent homes and what we can do individually to change this experience in our communities. 1. Be … [Read more...]
The 5 C’s of a Great Relationship
Each of us can relate to what a bad relationship looks like. We find we aren’t on the same page, our minor disagreements become big blow-ups and little things that annoy us about our mate become larger over time. Bad relationships have hints of lack of trust, lack of communication, an unwillingness to work together, a lack of empathy and love is rarely a verb. Great … [Read more...]