The holidays are almost here and if you’re unsure of what to get that special someone in your life, or even someone you’re just interested in, you don’t have to panic or go overboard on the spending. For singles or unmarried, we have a few levels in that relationship status to consider what kind of gift you could get someone. This post is for the folks who may need some … [Read more...]
How Fear, Ignorance, and Shame Keep the Black Community Vulnerable to HIV/AIDS
One of the best things that you can do for your partner and yourself is to be honest with them about your health. December 1st is World AIDS Day, an annual opportunity for people worldwide to unite in the fight against HIV, and one of those ways is through knowledge. I talked with Dr. Gameli Dekayie-Amenu from Besties M.D. about HIV in the Black community and other STDs that … [Read more...]
Singles: The One Thing You Should Be Looking for in a Potential Mate and It’s Not “Potential”
For the single who’s sincere about dating, courting, and marrying a suitable partner, the temptation to date someone who has “potential” comes up every now and then. For example, a potential partner is someone who may have 8 out of 10 things on your list of desired qualities in a mate. However, those last two traits may be vital. Related: 4 Annoying traits that could be … [Read more...]
Fellas: The 10 Biggest Dating Mistakes that Will Get You “Friendzoned” with a Quickness
Sometimes I wonder how easy it is for people who say "let's just be friends" to explain their reasoning behind it. There may have been some initial attraction with one or two parties involved, but then it just seemed one sided without much being said. Guys, I want to help you avoid being invited to your lady friend’s Thanksgiving dinner with her family only to be introduced … [Read more...]
Singles: If You Want Your Relationship to Grow, You Must Do this One Thing
"There should be a consistency that runs through us all. For Jesus doesn’t change—yesterday, today, tomorrow; He’s always totally Himself." Hebrews 13:8 MSG One of the most irritating things to go through in dating is what some call "the switch up." It is when you thought all was going well with someone and then out of nowhere you don't hear from them anymore, in any … [Read more...]
“Netflix and Chill” and Other Modern Dating Terms that Don’t Make Sense When It Comes to Real Love
Will you and your bae ever make something more from a Netflix and chill session or are you two just in this together for cuffing season? If that sentence didn’t make much sense, then you're right. Modern society tends to recreate the rules in dating each year and along with those changes come new terms and phrases for the things we do for love. Check out a few of these modern … [Read more...]
Singles: Are You Who Your Future Spouse is Praying for?
“From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded [required]; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.” Luke 12:48b NIV We all pray and wait patiently (and anxiously at times) for the one that God has for us to marry. We pray that they will treat us right, complement us, and have genuine love for us and others. It’s just as … [Read more...]
3 Things Singles Can Learn From a Family Vacation
Singles, whether you're visiting family over the holiday weekend or taking a vacation with family before the year is out, there are some things that we can recognize while out with our family in this season of life. I recently went on vacation with family and took a few notes on what it means to be single and on vacation—with family. While each family is different, there may … [Read more...]
More Than Slaves: “Underground” Celebrates Black Heroes In New Series
What do you tell your kids about the history of slavery in the United States? In recent years we’ve seen Hollywood’s perspective on history, telling stories from The Help to 12 Years a Slave with the perspective of Blacks as victims, inferior, or struggling to get by unless aided by a white savior. However, in early 2016, WGN America’s new series “Underground” is looking to … [Read more...]
Singles: Are Divorce Parties Sucking The Hope Out Of Marriage?
I was in an accessories store over the weekend and came across something amongst the prom, bachelorette and wedding items for ladies. It was an entire section of sashes, buttons and sayings that reflected being happily and newly...divorced. "Single again," "Kiss Me, I'm divorced," and "I'm no longer with stupid" were just some of the messages on these accessories for women … [Read more...]
Confession: I’m Jealous of Other Couples on Instagram
Let me know if this is you: you are scrolling through your timeline on Facebook or your favorite social media site and you’re constantly bombarded with status updates, photos and videos of people getting engaged, married and celebrating their full-on coupledom. For some singles it’s fine; but for others, it can be a constant reminder that things in their own love story have … [Read more...]
Let’s Talk About Sex: Little Known Tips For Discussing Sexual Health in Your Relationship
NFL star quarterback Russell Wilson and Artist Ciara were trending in recent news regarding their controversial decision to abstain from sex in their relationship. Though sexual abstinence is rare in celebrity relationships, they have definitely inspired singles and dating couples alike about having the mature conversation about sexual expectations in your relationship. When … [Read more...]
5 Irresistible Qualities Women Desire in a Christian Man
Hey ladies, what’s on your list in what makes a godly man attractive? Guys, what do you think attracts women to you the most? Aside from looks and other attributes that we may list as desirable when the question comes to mind, here are five irresistible qualities of the heart and character in a Christian man that ladies love as well. 1. Humility (Proverbs 15:33) Loving … [Read more...]
3 Lessons My Father Taught Me about Love, Even Though He Wasn’t Perfect
In honor of Father's Day this year, I'd like to share a few things I've learned over time through the relationship with my dad. Having a father figure in your life is very important and shouldn't be overlooked. I've learned some valuable lessons through the good, bad and ugly times. The ways about love that, through reflection and spiritual growth, have impacted how I approach … [Read more...]
How the Fear of Rejection Can Stunt Your Growth and Keep You Single
The word says that God is love and His perfect love casts out all fear. We may find ourselves in a fearful place where taking a risk in being rejected keeps us from trying. When it comes to the single life and dating, we have to take these risks every time we go out. It's one thing to try and get shot down, it's another to not try at all out of fear of being shot down. I'm … [Read more...]