Wedding season is quickly approaching and if you’re single or unmarried attending a wedding, you may doubt if you’ll enjoy it fully because of your current relationship status. Whether as a guest or part of the wedding party, the events are what you make them. To help you have an enjoyable experience as a single, here are ten do’s and don’ts to consider during wedding … [Read more...]
Single Ladies: 4 Specific Expressions We Tell Ourselves When He Stops Calling and How You Really Should Respond
No one wants to find out that someone they are interested in is no longer into them. Breakups, falling out, etc. can hurt the heart. Unfortunately the emotional wounds can occur from the "getting to know you" stage all the way up to committed relationships. When a man stops calling you, you have several ways to respond. Some I’ve been through and perhaps you can relate: “I … [Read more...]
Singles: 3 Unexpected Benefits of Volunteering
April is National Volunteer Month, and as an avid volunteer for different causes, I definitely agree that giving back not only benefits others but it benefits yourself. One benefit to start off with is that it takes your mind off of your issues as you to help someone else. Singles have more opportunities to give back to the community than most married people do, so let’s use … [Read more...]
Singles: Are You Afraid of Your 30’s?
"You need to get on it; you're going to be 30 soon." If you're not age thirty yet or have reached that decade of your life already, you've probably heard something like that statement before. For some reason, age 30 seems to be the start and the end for many things in life for men and women. From a woman's perspective, if you're not married by 30 you have even more pressure … [Read more...]
Singles: 3 Great Ideas to Experience this Spring
As the grass returns to a lush green and gorgeous flowers bud and bloom, exploration, growth, and love is essential for us singles and Spring is a great time to invest in that. While it may be time for the warm up season we call Spring (finally), we can get into some possible ideas for activities that singles can enjoy in this beautiful time of the year. Explore Spring is a … [Read more...]
Are You Being Guarded or Are You Guarding Your Heart?
In life we often exercise preventative measures and avoiding risk. This is definitely the case when it comes to the heart in love relationships. Whether single or well into a relationship, we have a decision to make almost daily to guard our heart or be guarded. Guarding your heart says: “I’m doing what’s best for me.” Being guarded says: “I’m defending myself against … [Read more...]
Why I Let God Control My Love Story
Over the weekend I had the opportunity to share some words of wisdom and advice to girls age 12-20 about not forcing love, friendships and relationships. The main takeaway was in the form of a Mad Libs activity. I let the girls fill out the first page, which asked for any noun, adjective, name, etc. that came to their minds. The second page, which most didn’t look at, was the … [Read more...]
Singles, 10 Ways to go from Selfish to Selfless
It's not about you. It's not about you. It's not about you. Singles, we have the misconception we often feed, that we can be some selfish creatures. Some books and other people will tell you that being single is a stage of enlightenment and a time to only be "taking care of me" and other clichés that come with false independence. That kind of thinking fits very well with how … [Read more...]
Singles: Do You Have a Love Mentor?
I strongly believe that people learn about love relationships from the environment they grew up in. As a child of once married and then divorced parents, my outlook on relationships became tainted. I questioned a lot of factors, including the longevity and stability of relationships. I grew up in an environment in which divorce was “normal” and love seemed conditional, but I’ve … [Read more...]
Singles: How Being in Denial Can Affect Your Growth in Relationships
One of the beauties of being single is that it gives you the opportunity to discover yourself and figure out your quirks without it directly affecting your significant other. The single season is a time to learn about yourself, and when God reveals to you your not so good sides, it means it’s time to make changes for the better. But what happens when you find yourself denying … [Read more...]
Singles: 10 Things to get ‘Delivert’ from by 2015
With the New Year upon us, it’s time to reflect on the 2014 you’ve had, mistakes made and even more memorable accomplishments. I do have to say this for my fellow singles: there are some things you got over this year and may still be dealing with. We are all works in progress. We have God’s grace to cover our mistakes and I pray that we all get the wisdom to not make them … [Read more...]
Singles: How are You “Actively Waiting” for Marriage?
I must admit that there are times when I get distracted by unnecessary things that keep me from being focused on being single. Sometimes it’s other people, TV, or my own thoughts. I realize then that I’m getting off track and need to refocus on what’s important to me in this season of singleness. When you make the decision to be single and actively wait for God’s plan to … [Read more...]
Singles: 3 Ways to Make the Most of the Holidays
It’s that special time of the year again, when the holidays come and bring people, family and friends together. For singles, however this time of the year can be a reminder of their singleness. This time of the year is not a time for you be nagged by family about why you’re single, getting jealous over friends’ social media posts, or being bored! We have to remember something … [Read more...]
Cutting Off Your Temptation Triggers in Dating
I never really gave the thought of withholding kissing ‘til my wedding day until I began to read and hear numbers of testimonies of couples who’ve done just that. For some, kissing is a physical and intimate act that leads minds to wander to places they shouldn’t as a single. For others, kissing leads to more physical expressions of intimacy, which again is not appropriate in a … [Read more...]
Why Does Rejecting a Date Hurt You?
Not long ago a friend of mine was going through an emotional dilemma with a guy. She was asked out by a coworker and in her commitment to pursue her personal development and not date, she turned down his offer with a message kind of explaining why in over 140 characters. Needless to say, the guy responded “yup” and that was about it after that. Feeling left in ambiguity about … [Read more...]