Has this happened to you before? You hear one part of a scripture in church service and run with it? One of those common scriptures just happens to be in John 15, when Jesus was giving an excellent metaphor about vines, branches, and our discipleship. I'm sure you've heard before, "Ask whatever you wish and it will be given to you." That's what Jesus tells us, then we start … [Read more...]
Single, 4 Things That Will Help on Cold Lonely Nights
Dear Autumn, So here we are again. It’s been several months and I must say I’ve enjoyed the break away from early sunsets, grey skies, and chilled windowsills. I can admit though that I’ve missed the lattes spiced with cinnamon, pumpkin and peppermint. I can swallow my pride and say that the changing of the leaves are romantically beautiful. I can say that I’ve missed the … [Read more...]
When It Comes to Love, Should You Really Follow Your Heart?
Ever heard of the phrase "Follow your heart?" We see it everywhere from the cartoons we saw growing up to lines in songs and graphics on T-shirts. It's a way of life to some people, creating a seemingly passionate and romantic way of living to the fullest. Choosing to follow your heart is a bold statement to make, but what does it mean exactly? In my opinion, following your … [Read more...]
Finding Closure after “It’s over” by Letting God Take the Reins
Walking around with heaviness from having not fully addressing my break up in a matured way, the Holy Spirit prepared me to speak to my ex. I got a heads up in my spirit about him contacting me and shortly afterwards I received an email from him asking to meet up with me later on that week. I was nervous and yet thankful, because in that moment I believed that God was giving me … [Read more...]
Singles: 6 Tips for a Graceful Break Up
It’s been on my heart lately to discuss breakups. Not just in the romantic ties, but in friendships and other types of relationships. There are times when it’s absolutely necessary to cut someone off, but we as believers cannot be known for broken relationships. There are a lot of hurt people in the Body of Christ/ the Church because of their brothers and sisters in the … [Read more...]
New Romance: Is it Destiny or Distraction?
Wedding season is upon us, and often times we can get lost in the emotions of the moment or the routine if you have attended a few. At one wedding I went to a while back, I noted an important theme that resonated in the ceremony: "destiny." The presiding pastor noted that God created the bride with the groom in mind and vice versa. They were put together for a purpose, their … [Read more...]
Ladies: Do You Find It Difficult to Compliment Men?
As I've gotten older, I've learned to appreciate, not just like, a well dressed man. It's the time and attention paid to the details of his overall look, from his crown to his feet, that would make many a lady like myself wave my hands like a mother in church service. Only in my head though, because that would be weird to do it on the train at 8:19 am in the morning on the way … [Read more...]
10 Questions to Get to Know the Man You’re Dating Better
A few years ago, I did a survey on dating. And one of the results revealed that men are more influenced by society and friends when it comes to dating and relationships. This reminds me of the film "The Wood" from the late 90s. It begs the question....what society are they subscribing to and who are their friends? If you really want to get to know someone, ask good questions … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Slow Down Impulse Dating
All shopping addicts or impulsive folks can relate to the following dilemma. You're walking into your favorite department store (we won't single out just one) and you look for the items that you need and successfully approach the aisles for payment. Then, out of nowhere, something catches your eye at the end cap and it's something that you're thinking about putting in the … [Read more...]
Don’t Let Breakups Break You
I remember when I had a "growing pain" moment a few years ago. My dad came by the house to see how I was doing and it was hard for me to admit that I was in need. I needed gas money for the week and didn't really want to ask him for that, but eventually I told him about it. My dad told me: "I like it when you ask me to help you, you're my daughter." What he said resonated with … [Read more...]
Singles: Do You Know the Benefits of Dating Yourself?
“Did you come here by yourself?” a girl asked me as I agreed to take their photos in front of the evening’s venue. “Yeah,” I replied, explaining in a nutshell that there were no more group tickets so I came anyway. At the moment it was hard to determine if I was questioned out of pity or out of awe. Either way I got my photo in front of the concert venue, an eager smile across … [Read more...]
4 Reasons Why We Love Mr. or Ms. Wrong
Guys and ladies have both been hit with the epidemic of falling for the bad woman or the bad guy. Something about their mysteriousness, their attitude, swagger, and overall coolness made us swoon or find them attractive. That may have been okay for one time, but if you find yourself consistently going for the no-good smooth-talker, the gold digger, or the church-on-Sundays, … [Read more...]
How Can We See More Black Love on Film?
Recently I went to my local library to see a documentary on the history of Black Love in film. The 2011 documentary called Reel Black Love, directed and produced by Darryl Pitts of Chicago, features dozens of interviews with famed actors, actresses, and professionals in the film industry discussing the many ups and downs of Black cinema. What intrigued me the most was to see a … [Read more...]
7 Great Valentine’s Day Ideas for Singles
Single on Valentine’s Day this year? That doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate it! Have a fun time without feeling lonely or like you’re missing out on something. This is a day like all the other 364, so if you’re feeling festive, here are some ideas for celebrating love and life for the Valentine’s Day weekend: [imagebrowser id=214] … [Read more...]
What Does Your Negative Facebook Status Say About You?
In 2014, we as singles are facing more challenges when it comes to expressing ourselves online. We’ve all seen it. The friend on Facebook (or yourself) who posts a status update bashing the opposite sex after a breakup/bad day, using some cliché statement in the spirit of hurt and bitterness, then proceeding to change their relationship status immediately back to … [Read more...]