“Now I’m depressed, I thought he was the one.”
Especially in an early dating relationship, your emotions are on a high because of this new person that seems to have it altogether. You feel yourself showing signs of falling in love and then out of nowhere he disappears. Now you’re crushed and feel like your plans and dreams are over, that no one wants you, that your happiness is gone. This is a response in idolatry, putting the attention of a man before your personal time with the Lord. You pray for a man and to test you God sends one your way and what happens? You put God on the back burner. You wait in anticipation for the good morning messages from the new guy when your Father waits for you to say good morning. You look over warning signs and red flags because you see the good in people, but the reality is you are ignoring the intuition God gave you to wait and search out a matter before moving forward with this man.
You may have ignored God’s tapping on your shoulder or whisper in your ear about the man because you wanted to make it work with him. Repent if you realize that you’ve put a man before God. No one can love you and support you the way that God does. He is jealous for you, and putting anyone before Him will not be peaceful in the long run. Godly relationships are centered on Christ, not the person you’re in a relationship with.
If you’re single and desire to be married, consider your response to God’s call. Have you stopped calling on Him? Have you ignored His calls? Do you just gloss over His good morning and goodnight texts (in the Word) while waiting for your phone to buzz from a man? Sometimes God will allow you to bump your head in these relationships that go wrong because at the end of the day He’s training you to be solely dependent on Him. Depending on a man for direction could steer you off your purpose’s path if they are not truly for you.
What is the best way to respond when a man stops calling?
“I will wait on and trust the Lord.”
This is the ideal response to make when the guy you’re with no longer wants to be with you. It may be an attack on your self esteem, worth, or joy. Now this statement sounds like a typical response that we’d see in books yet you find it difficult to have that mindset when the emotional hurt and mental confusion are so real you can barely function properly through the day.
Let me remind you sister that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you (Philippians 4:13); that taking a step back and just standing on God’s promise that He will cover you, restore you, avenge you, and never leave you. Waiting and trusting God is a daily thing and you deciding to take a step forward every day to trust His will, timing and way for your life. This pleases Him and frees you from your past and the ways you may have responded poorly before.
There are many other ways to respond to when someone you were hoping to build a future with just cuts out on you. It’s hard to not take it personally, but if we take the time to look past those natural, beautiful emotions, we can see what God wants us to see: the bigger picture, the dodged bullet, or His hand at work in it all.
Hey BMWK ladies, have you responded before when a man just walked away from trying to pursue you or be in a relationship?