We recently received the following question/comment from one of our readers: “I read most of your articles you post. Your knowledge is very useful on a lot of different subject matters. I know a lot of married couples and one of the main issues I find hard to address or possibly answer is 'can privacy work in marriage without causing distrust?' I find this one of the #1 … [Read more...]
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Dear BMWK: My Husband Thinks He’s Mr. Right
Dear BMWK, Even though he would probably say otherwise, my husband rarely admits to being wrong. Even when he does admit to being wrong and apologize, it is always done in a way that makes me seem equally as wrong, meaning his wrong is only ever a result of mine. Because of this, usually at some point I will apologize either way just to keep the peace. The other day we … [Read more...]
DEAR BMWK: I Fell In Love With My Husband’s Representative
It's been a while since we've done a Dear BMWK feature and we're backed up on a few so next week look for them to start rolling out. Here's the first one... DEAR BMWK, What do you do when you want to have the divorce is not an option belief, but the person you married has completely changed. My pastor likes to comment that when you are dating you meet someone's … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, How Old is Too Old?
.hmmessage P { margin:0px; padding:0px } body.hmmessage { font-size: 10pt; font-family:Verdana } Dear BMWK: I'm a single woman, dating and enjoying life. I've dated men my age, younger and older. Recently, however, I find myself more attracted to older men, but I'm concerned about how old is too old. I mean. I'm in my thirties and I've met some fifty year old men who look … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, Is Hurt Natural In a Relationship?
Dear BMWK, I had a conversation recently where the topic centered around being hurt in a relationship. My friend thinks that love should never hurt and thinks being dissappointment and pain are signs that one should walk away. I completely disagreed. I think hurt is an unfortunate part of every relationship. People will disappoint, mistakes will happen, things will be … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK: He Left Without a Goodbye
Dear BMWK, I need to reach out, I am so depressed and driving myself to pure insanity. I met my soul mate, a man that is true to me and what he gives is pure in heart. He is emotionally attentive. When he speaks to me I stand still because he is so intelligent. We have great passion for one another and the chemistry is off the chain. I was not looking for this man when … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, My Husband Doesn’t Trust Me
Dear BMWK, My husband accused me of having an affair with absolutely no proof although he said he pictures. We sought counseling however that really did not help. For some reason he cannot trust me like he should although he says he does. He says I have joined facebook to basically communicate with other men. He says I don't be texting my daughter when I say I do. It … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, Where Do You Draw The Line?
Dear BMWK, I am new to this site & enjoy reading the articles and comments :) I have a quick question. So many of you all mentioned catering to your husbands. Where do you draw the line at catering to your significant other who is NOT your husband? Like how much is too much or too little? BMWK help our single friend out. At what point do you put on the … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, Enough is Enough!!!
I've dated my children's father off and on for over 10 years. Yes, that's along time! But we recently seperated again less than six months ago. First let me make you aware of the reason for our seperation - he was cheating on me with a woman from work. We have lived a happy, calm, life until now. Recently the "m" word has surfaced but nothing has developed between us … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, I Date Outside My Race Because of Politics
DearBMWK, I have a question is it wrong not to date your race because of Political difference I'm a black man and I'm a Republican and as it stands. I thinks its a bad idea to date in my race cause most of yall are Democrats please respond just want to know your opinion i just interested in knowing your thoughts on this. BMWK family, we'll let you chime in on this … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, Single Brother Needs Advice
Dear BMWK, I need some advice. I am a single brother with 3 grown children (none live with me), ages 25, 21 and 20, one grandchild, and a great job and live by myself due to a out of town contract. I have always been interdependent and/or independent and have taken care of my family. I have been divorced for 7 years from the mother of our children after 16 years of … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, I’m Confused and Need Advice
Dear BMWK, I need some advice. I am a single (sort-of) woman with 4 children, ages 15-4, great job, always been independent and took care of my own. I recently split with the father of my children of 11 years and been dating now for about 3 years. My IBM (Ideal black man) is one with morals, values, goals, a job, a car, his priorities in order, some kind of future plan, be … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, My Husband Has a Friend
Dear BMWK, I once saw a message on my husband s phone but there was no name and i remembered seeing the phone number before. I asked my husband who it was and he refused to say , so out of curiosity i phoned the number and the woman started insulting me so when my husband knew what had happened he then told me that they were friends since college and that she is married so … [Read more...]
In Response To: Dear BMWK, Is It Time To Move On?
.hmmessage P { margin:0px; padding:0px } body.hmmessage { font-size: 10pt; font-family:Verdana } Dear BMWK, is it time to move on also??? After reading an early post raising the same question , I've been muddling around the same ideas in my mind for the last couple of months. My situation is a little different, we are not married but were engaged for a year , we … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, Is It Time To Move On?
My question/concern would be.. Ive been in a relationship for a few years. I ve always strived to become a better person for my self and my daughters. Im a single parent although I have a significant other. I currently earned my bachelors degree and I soon will be returning back to school for my MBA. My significant other, on the other hand, didnt graduate high school. He … [Read more...]