Dear BMWK, First off, I am so completely head over heels in love with this site! I have gained countless "cool points" from my husband during football season for asking those educated questions that I was given by "The Dad!" Thanks again but now I have another issue. My husband is taking on the body of a doughboy! Ok, I must say I have personally always been attracted to … [Read more...]
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Dear BMWK, What’s The Difference Between A Good Girlfriend and a Good Wife?
Dear BMWK, How do you know what makes a good wife? I don't mean when you're already married, but before then. How would you say you can tell the difference between someone that makes a good girlfriend versus someone that would make a good wife? … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, I’m Caught In The Middle of Becoming a Thug or a Nice Guy
We got this in over the holidays in response to an older post: (Why) Do (Some) Black Women Love Thugs!?!?. There were a few follow up comments that I'll move into this post. Im 18 and im a college student. For me im caught in the middle of being a thug or a nice guy. I used to have to have the perfect view of what a black men should be, that is until i ran into this one … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, What Do You Do When You Have Different Faiths?
Dear BMWK, I do have a topic that I would love to be discussed. I would like to hear from families where the partners have different faiths and how they cope. I'm currently in that situation right now (we've only been married 1.5 years) where I'm non-denominational and he grew up Jehovah's Witness. HER VIEW: Interfaith marriages can work...but it is not easy as … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, I’m A Single Mom That Feels Like Damaged Goods!
Dear BMWK, Hi, i am a huge fan of the blog but i have a topic or a question. I am a 24 yr old single mother i work and i am a full time student.overall i think im a responsible well balanced young women but 3 yrs after my sons birth i am still having a hard time dealing with the fact that his father and i are no together..mind you i was the on who chose to leave the … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, Single Black Man Looking For Single Black Woman
Hi, I am a 28 year old young man living in the MD/DC area. I am a graduate student and I have a problem with dating/meeting women. I have no baggage and pretty much an all around good dude. I have never had a problem with meeting women, but lately since I went back to graduate school to get my degree, I have not been able to meet women that I am interested in. I go … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, I Spy!
Dear BMWK, I have terrible trust issues with men. This is my second marriage and we have been together for 15 years, married 14. My first marriage lasted 1 yr and we were both just 21. My husband is a wonderful provider, has taken care of my first daughter from the first marriage since she was 3, now she is 18. We have a daughter together and he always says he has two … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, My Wife Is Holding Out
My wife and I have been together for about 11 years and she is getting worse, it went fromhaving sex a few times a week,to every 2 months, to 4 months and now she is at 6 months! I cannot take it, I love her deeply, I tell her daily yet whenever I get close to her she is not in the mood and blames it on the stress with work and life in general. We have arguments about it all … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK: My Child Has a Gift, When Should We Begin To Pursue It?
Dear BMWK, My 27month old daughter has what I think is an early gift for music. At only a few months old she had an uncanny sense of rhythm where she would clap, tap or hum to the beat right on cue. (An ability some adults still don' t have). If something were playing she could clap on beat then if you cut the music off she could keep the beat, this is from being a less than … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK… Young Marriage – Update!
We got this comment over the weekend from someone we profiled in a Dear BMWK before. To see the original question and everyone's comments go here. Hello everyone this is pinkgirl. i just wanted to give you guys an update on the decision i made. I broke up with my bf who i was dating for 5 years. Its been like 2 months since we broke up and now he saying he wants to marry me … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, What Should My Child’s Last Name Be?
Dear BMWK, If a woman has a child with a man and they are not married should the woman give the child the man's last name? It's double dipper day at BMWK with the Dear BMWK letters. I'll let you all start on this one and we'll jump in on the comments side of things. … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, I Need Love!
Dear BMWK, My husband and I have been together for 3 years now. He has never really been an affectionate person, even when we were dating. When we first met, he was affectionate. But I think that was due to the newness of the relationship. As time went on, I felt the affection dwindling. I chose to overlook this and married him anyway (as he is a good man and a great … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, Compromising or Simply Giving In?
Compromising or simply giving in? Is there a big difference between the two? I mean are both people happy by the end or is one person happier then the other? As I look at my friends relationships I find that they usually are the ones who are giving in or should I say coming out not so happy! Then I look at my own and sometimes see the same. What do you do? Are you … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, I Have Trust Issues
Dear BMWK, I have trust issues and was wondering how can I begin to get over them? HIS VIEW: Keep in mind that the man you are dating now is not responsible for what the man you dated before did to you. You can easily miss out on a good thing by holding someone accountable for something they had nothing to do with. That may be easier said than done but I can say from … [Read more...]
Dear BMWK, What If… “You Are Not The Father!”
Dear BMWK, I have a question for you! I don't know if this is blog material but here it is"... If a man finds out that he is not the father of a child he thought was his, should he be able to get money back if he was paying child support? And should the women have to be responsible in any way? BMWK family, tell us what you think about this one. … [Read more...]