You will be wrong.
We love to be right, but it just can’t happen all the time. As much as you think your spouse is always wrong, sometimes you are the one who is wrong. Accepting and embracing our imperfections is actually pretty healthy for us all.
You won’t always like your spouse.
I love my husband. There is no question. And I can genuinely say that he is one of my favorite people to be around and I really, really like him—most of the time. There are moments when I don’t care for him all that much. It doesn’t mean our marriage is in trouble or we are doomed—it simply means I am human and we are having a moment.
Some habits won’t change.
You have to accept that your spouse probably showed you who he or she was before you got married. Don’t expect an exchange of vows to change who they are. Sure, compromises should be made, but some of your spouse’s habits will never change.
Some things will matter to you more.
Throughout your marriage, you will have a number of different experiences. In time you will come to realize that you both won’t always feel the same way about a particular issue. That’s okay. Your spouse is not required to share your convictions. Give them the space to choose what matters to them while still respecting what matters to you.
They may process things differently.
Different people express their emotions differently. When your spouse is angry, frustrated, sad, happy, or even devastated, don’t expect them to process things or express their emotions in the same way you would. Everyone deserves to process their experiences in a way that feel authentic and works for them.
BMWK family, what are some things you’ve learned to accept over the years?