When a relationship ends sometimes you want to do everything but look back. The saying “we can still be friends” does not apply in your case as the only place you want your ex to be is in your memories. The far distant ones because, you realize that as much as you might try you can’t completely forget. But what if you had an opportunity to reconnect? What if you could sit down and have a heart to heart with your ex and engage in a session of constructive criticism? Would you even want to? If your ex could tell you where you went wrong in the relationship would you care to know for the sake of the next person you date or for the sake of not repeating the same mistake or habits in your current relationship?
In an article by Clutch readers are asked, “What would your ex say about you?”
“I’ve definitely had moments like these and at first I used to agree that the opinions of my exes didn’t matter, but as my dating life evolved I realized that to some degree it did. Life is all about growing and changing, and often in relationships we’re so busy trying to be in (or out) of love that we don’t really see or understand how we appear to our partners. Getting the opinion of an ex is not to give them some kind of elevated importance in your life, it’s to learn more about yourself.” To read the full article be sure to visit Clutch.
BMWK — Would you care to know what your ex thinks about you?
Jay Combsly says
Hahaha! ”Closure” right? No thanx. Just another argument waiting to happen with someone I now no longer care to be with. All a man has to do is think back on all of his relationships and figure out the common denominator of how he always messes up.
Rose says
I agree with Jay 100%! You do not need to talk to an ex about what you did wrong or what went wrong in the realtionship. When you break up with someone it’s for only two reason they did something wrong or you did something wrong. All you have to do is self reflect you will figure out what you did wrong and the mistakes you made and the red flags that you fail to see. I know after my break up(s) I looked back on the situation and knew where things went wrong.
Andriea ISH says
I have actually asked my ex to tell me how I was in our relationship, because I was interested in learning something about myself that I could possibly use or work on in my new relationship. The things that he told me were things that I knew about myself, but they weren’t things that he had ever said to me during our relationship. I’m not sure why anyone would just put up with something that bothers him when he could say something and work toward a solution so that he could live more comfortably.
My husband does the same thing. I’ve learned that if things are going well, he won’t say anything because he wants to continue to live peacefully. Oh, but when an argument breaks out, I get an earful of things that have absolutely nothing to do with the current fight. LOL Now, I’ve made a habit of asking him questions and checking in with him to make sure everything is good.