I’ve always hated the phrase “love conquers all.” Don’t get me wrong, I am all about romance and happily ever after, but I have seem enough in my lifetime to know that love does not conquer all. Love is wonderful and magical but it isn’t enough.
Have you ever heard a woman share how much she love’s a man, but it’s really her way of justifying his mistreatment of her. It leaves me puzzled to say the least. Why does love give someone the permission to treat you poorly and make you look like a fool?
I’m just not with it.
I think when a man sends clear signs that he’s not really that into to you, you have to pay attention to those signs. Don’t ignore it. Don’t make excuses for him. Don’t tell yourself that he loves you and that his behavior could be worse.
You have to know your worth. You have to remember that no one has the right to treat you with a lack of respect and dignity. You have to protect yourself from getting played.
Here are 5 signs that your man is playing you and you need to move on to someone who deserves your love.
He doesn’t want you to visit his home.
I am not suggesting that you need to go to a guy’s house during the first few dates. Maybe he is just being cautious and wants to make sure you aren’t all the way crazy before he brings you into his home. But after you have been dating for a while, if it seems like he is always trying to be up in your house, but he never wants you at his, something is up. Listen to your gut and ask for an explanation. If the explanation sounds like B.S., it probably is. Keep it moving.
He’s been hiding you from his family for a really long time.
I will be the first to admit that in my dating days, I really didn’t want my family to meet a guy right away. I had to feel like it was going somewhere first. That’s just how I roll. But when I see a man dating a woman for well over a year and he still hasn’t introduced her to anyone in his family, something is up. He’s either hiding something or he has serious commitment issues. Find out what’s going on.
He lies about stupid things.
I have always believed that when a person lies about foolish things, they will typically lie about anything. Don’t fall for it. If your man lies about where he’s been, where he works, what school he goes to, etc., give him the boot. I can almost guarantee that he will eventually be comfortable enough to lie to you about almost anything and who has time for that mess?
He’s cheated on you more than once.
No one is perfect. I think people make mistakes and sometimes you are able to work things out. But I also believe that some people do you wrong so many times they just don’t deserve another chance. If a man has cheated on you time and time again, he’s pretty much telling you that’s who he is. You have to stop wishing and hoping for him to be someone he’s not. He’s playing you and he’s hoping that you care enough to stay and tolerate it. Don’t give him that satisfaction.
I know that some people are a bit private by nature and that is okay, but there is a difference between being private and being downright secretive. If your gut is telling you that your man is keeping secrets, he probably is. Don’t stick around to watch the secret slowly creep into your life. Ask for honesty and if he can’t give you that, tell him to kick rocks.
BMWK family, what are some signs that someone is being played?