The 2019 Thanksgiving festivities are over! You’ve had all the turkey, stuffing, and sweet potato pie you can handle. Yet, in about a month, you’ll eat yourself into a coma once again during Christmas. No matter how hard we try, the holidays are a tough time to maintain a level of physical health we can be proud of. But while eating healthy might be tough, having a healthy marriage in 2020 doesn’t have to be. Here are a few things to feed your marriage and help you achieve the kind of relationship your new year deserves.
2020 Healthy Marriage: 4 Things to Feed Your Marriage and Keep it Healthy in the New Year
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Regardless of how long you’re married or where your marriage stands, a new year often brings new hope for a stronger relationship. But if you’re tired of making resolutions only to break them, it might be time for a different approach. Rather than simply staying away from things that are unhealthy, you should feed your marriage as much healthy “food” as possible.
The tastiest delicacy you can feed your marriage is prayer. It is the place of surrender where every marriage succeeds. Through prayer, you allow God to take hold of your relationship and mold it into his image. A healthy marriage feeds off of prayer every single day because it helps you connect spiritually with your spouse. You know that without food, your body whithers. Likewise, without prayer, your marriage will struggle. If you desire to have a healthy marriage in 2020, begin your day with prayer. Let it be the breakfast you use to start each day in your relationship.
After you’ve surrendered your relationship to God through prayer, what’s next? Well, there’s a saying, “God helps those who help themselves.” Though this isn’t directly from the Bible, it has a lot of Biblical influence in its message. A healthy marriage starts with you talking to God, but it gets stronger when you know how to talk to your spouse. Through prayer, God helps you. Through proper communication, you help yourself by plugging in emotionally with your partner.
When you and your spouse talk to each other, use words that uplift, build, and strengthen each other. Bad communication is akin to consuming rotten food. Neither is good for the body much less a marriage. In order for your relationship to not only survive but be healthy, learn the best methods for communicating with your partner and implement them in your relationship. Allow communication to be a nice healthy lunch that gets your relationship through each day.
You’ve prayed. You’ve had great communication. But a healthy marriage isn’t built on those alone. They do, however, set you up for some amazing time in the bedroom. Sexual intimacy naturally follows a deep spiritual and emotional connection with your spouse. It’s not overselling it to say that intimacy is like a seven-course dinner that takes your marriage to a completely different level.
When you and your spouse engage in sexual intimacy, the health of your marriage does nothing but improve. You look at, talk to, and pray with each other intimately. As a result, your marriage goes from being average to out of this world!
“Where there is no vision, the people perish.” Proverbs 29:18 tells us that. In the same way, without vision, your marriage will perish. Sure you’ve prayed and talked and loved. But where are you going in your relationship? What do you hope for? What’s your legacy? Your marriage…the two of you coming together as one…it means something. And the health of your marriage relies on you figuring out what that something is.
So, I looked it up and the idea behind a 20/20 vision is that it indicates the sharpness or clarity of vision at a distance. Establishing distant goals and plans for your relationship is like a snack between every meal. Between prayer, communication, and intimacy, vision gives your marriage an added boost. A healthy marriage becomes even healthier when there is a clear vision for the direction of your relationship.
I know that 2020 isn’t here yet, but it’s right around the corner. A healthy marriage, like a healthy body, won’t happen overnight. But if you plan ahead and surrender to the power of prayer, communication, intimacy, and vision, your marriage will do more than survive. It will thrive.
BMWK, are you ready to have a healthy marriage in 2020?