Patience is a virtue, but it can sometimes be useless when you’re waiting on God to send you the man that he has for you. Though you realize waiting on God is best, you may be overlooking things that are defeating the purpose of the process. It happens to a lot of people, and there is a lot we can learn from the mistakes made. Here are three things to consider that may be hindering you while you wait on God.
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Your Naomi Is A Hater
In the biblical story of Ruth and Boaz, Ruth received guidance from her mother-in-law Naomi on how to get her man. One can conclude that Naomi genuinely wanted to see Ruth find a good husband, even from before they found out about Boaz. Well, I hate to say it, but that’s not how it works for everyone. Some of you ladies have women around you that are not as genuinely interested in you finding a man, at least not before them.
It may not be intentional or malicious, but I have seen many cases where friends or family can mess things up. They can have a huge negative impact through misguided counsel or spreading negative perceptions. Sometimes they flat out sabotage potential relationships. You have to be mindful of their spirit, and if they are operating from a truly positive place. If you’re going to wait on God then always remember to talk to God. Rest assured he isn’t trying to hate on you and only wants what is best for you.
You Think You’re Ready But You’re Not Prepared
A lot of you will say and believe that you’re ready for the relationship you desire. You may have a lot of great things going on for yourself. In your eyes, what could possibly be left in your current phase of life? Well, it could be a lot more than you think. Some of you could get that man that is best for you right now. But, you may either run from it or sabotage it because you aren’t truly prepared for it.
Relationships take work and a lot of love. When you’re waiting on God’s best, he will also expect your best. You are a great woman, but some of your greatness is still buried underneath a lot of unaddressed negativity from the past. In some cases, it may not even be about a lack of healing in your life. It may simply be that you have a purpose, and certain goals need to be achieved before God brings a relationship into the picture. The last thing God wants is for you to be distracted. So continue to focus on him and find out how you need to prepare for the blessing that is waiting on you.
You Feel Some Kind Of Way About Being Submissive
Say the word “submissive” to some women and they immediately go into battle mode on the topic. You may be one of those women who isn’t really feeling this whole submission thing. You may feel some men are simply trying to take advantage of you. The truth is that some men are. However, that doesn’t change the need to embrace the principle of submission.
When you wait on God, you will be tested with your submission to Him. Though you love God, it can still be very uncomfortable to relinquish control to Him. If you can’t do it with God, then there is no way you will embrace submission with a man. I am not encouraging you to be a doormat and allow some guy to run all over you. If he isn’t capable of being the man you need, then he isn’t the guy you need to be with. More so, he’s not someone to embrace submission with. Embracing submission does not make you less than his equal. In fact, the man who truly loves you isn’t interested in treating you as less than.
Let me say right now, this article may be for the women, but men have the same types of issues hindering them. No matter the gender, we have to be mindful of these things and do what is necessary to overcome them. Waiting on God is a great thing, but do it correctly in order to get results. You deserve the best, all of you, and through proper preparation, I am confident you will receive it.
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Editor’s Note – This post was originally published on May 14, 2014, and has been updated for quality and relevancy.