by Krystle Talley
We all should have standards in place for who we want to associate with, date, and even marry one day. So, what should our standards be?
Well, I can’t speak for the men but I can share my humble opinions and advice with the ladies who plan to marry one day soon or in the distant future. Although I can’t speak for the men, they may be able to reference this list so that they too can prepare themselves for what women will look for when “courting” as the old school people put it.
Any man with a decent mother will more than likely have high expectations for his future wife””that’s the way it should be. Ideally, women should also look for great features and values they wish to see in a man that may become a lifelong partner.
So, here are 5 standards I believe women should definitely set when deciding who to associate with, date, or possibly marry:
He should be a conversationalist. Most women have one thing in common. We love to talk. I don’t mean gossip, but having in depth conversations with those we care about. So, it’s important to find a man who can hold up their end of the conversation. Look for a talker.
He should be honest. We can usually determine from the beginning if a man has an issue with telling the truth. If a woman has to second guess a man’s actions or words because they don’t seem authentic, then more than likely that man is hiding something or has issues with being candid.
He should be stable. Every woman dreams of having a happily ever after with a big beautiful wedding and a huge gorgeous house. However, that’s not reality. Most men aren’t rich and won’t be able to give the Prince Charming fairytale”...but, a man does need to be stable. He should at least be able to support you, especially if hard times surface and one of you ends up unemployed for reasons neither of you can control.
He should be family-oriented. Most women are sentimental when it comes to family bonds. So, it would be great to connect with a man who feels that family is important. Even if he didn’t grow up around family, he should still desire to have a loving connection with his future family.
He should be affectionate. Lastly ladies, he should have the capability to be intimate; not just in the bedroom, but in public as well. Intimacy is more than just sexual intercourse. It’s a deep romantic connection that involves verbal and nonverbal language. He shouldn’t be afraid to show you off in front of family or friends.
These are just some values that I deem important when seeking a partner. There may be others that I failed to mention here. What are some standards you personally set for yourself?
Krystle Talley blogs at the Christian Chameleon.