by Eric Payne
It’s a new year and time to start things off on the right foot. And as a year is made up of 365 days the goal should be to have as many good days as possible. One of the easiest ways to start each day off on the “good foot” is to say “Good Morning” to your spouse. If you’re a morning person like myself, it is downright insulting to awaken into a new day with no acknowledgement whatsoever from my spouse. This very small indifference can throw up a cloud of negativity over both of you and cause the one offended to leave the house with an empty feeling. This feeling only gets compounded when out in the streets contending with the daily batch of strangers on the road, in stores and at the workplace. The same is the case when leaving the house for the day and not saying goodbye.
It’s Not a Matter of Sensitivity
Oftentimes the offender is bewildered by your “sensitivity” to their actions. But it’s not a matter of sensitivity. It’s common courtesy. Your spouse will probably rely on the fact that you know they aren’t a morning person. They may not even remember not speaking to you. In some instances they may even go so far as to suggest you’re being sensitive. In this new year don’t allow anyone, not even your spouse, to label you in a less than positive way or tell you something is wrong with you because of their actions. Stand on your principles and what you believe you deserve.
For Better or Worse
Before you were married, not acknowledging your partner would’ve spelled the end of your relationship. Unless you have a job that constantly keeps you out of town, your day begins and ends with your spouse, like it or not. It’s much easier to say, “Good Morning,” than it is to deal with the consequences — your spouse going through the day on the wrong foot; or if you have kids, them watching your every move. There’s a 50/50 chance they’ll grow up copying or striving to avoid repeating your daily indifference. Which would you like them to do?
And who knows – it may do you some good to step outside of yourself and go beyond who you are in this new year. To make it light and maybe even fun, spouses can make a game out of this. Offer perks and demerits for greeting each other in the morning. Even if it’s grumbled it will be appreciated. Whatever the outcome, no harm can come from acknowledging your spouse in the morning. Plenty can from not doing so. Why put yourself through the drama?
Author of the now infamous, My Wife Is NOT My Friend (on Facebook), Eric talks about being a father and a husband on his blog, Makes Me Wanna Holler ““ Man, Dad, Husband. You can follow him on Twitter or find him chopping it up on his Facebook Page. He is the author of I See Through Eyes, a book of poetry and short stories. In his “spare time” Eric reviews autos and writes relationship articles for Atlanta-based J’Adore Magazine.
Keeshab2002 says
I agree. It’s not hard to be nice, and loving..especially in the morning. At one point last year, my husband would pray for us before we got out of bed and THOSE WERE THE BEST DAY’S!! It’s amazing how it would put us on the right foot, and even when the day’s drama unfolded, we handled it so much better. He work’s nights alot, so I’m up with the kids by the time he get’s home most days, and we fell off. We can always pray together, I just wanted to bring extra attention to a quick morning prayer as husband and wife. (It will often lead to an even BETTER treat, if you know what I mean!!…LOL). There’s all kinds of perks to wake up to in the morning if you play it right!!
Anonymous says
Oh man! Good post. A must read in my “circle” today
Blazer00 says
I couldn’t agree with you more couples should wake up in the morning nice and loving. It gives the start of a new day special. Praying with one another is also a tremendous way to get the day going. I’m going to commit to doing this with my wife and pray that it leads to a wonderful day and the beginning of a properous new year.
Dillahuntf says
Very good and I agree with this story. My wife is not a morning person but I try to the best of my ability to greet morning or night even if I get no response.
TTeresa whitman says
Loving it , my husband kiss me every morning before getting out of the bed and always massage my back & neck … also greet me with a kiss every day as he enter the door in the evening .. believe me it make s my day ! But praying together would be awesome
Dawn K Aldrich says
Great post!
Reggie Williams says
Exellent post. Most of the comments addressed praying. If you believe in a power greater than you, you’ll prayer every morning. My wife and I don’t part the door without it.
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