Once you start your new lives together, daily routines will start to make your marriage seem dull. You may feel like your marriage is boring and wonder if that is how marriage is supposed to feel. Well, I want to tell you that you can enjoy your marriage no matter how long you’ve been married. Below are some tips to help.

• Go on dates with each other. Visit a new restaurant or live music venue to make it seem like you are still in the dating phase of your relationship. If your spouse has a hobby or interest that you are not too fond of, try the hobby with them. My husband plays dominoes and I didn’t know how to play, so he taught me and that gave us something to do together. Visit somewhere you have not gone together in the past. This will give you something new to talk about.
• If a date night is not possible due to schedules and/or kids, plan something for the two of you at home.  Cook something different; maybe eat in the dining room listening to background music instead of in front of the television. However, if you are sports fans and a game is on, you may have to try a special lunch or breakfast. Perhaps trying a new bottle of wine can help break up the monotony of the day.
•  The bedroom. Yes things can get redundant in the bedroom. May I suggest trying new positions and/or toys? You are married now so you have a license to have sex, enjoy it! If toys are not your forte, you may want to role play. That will definitely spice up the bedroom time. Speaking of bedroom time, perhaps taking it to another room in your house will add to the enjoyment.

Finally, marriage will have exciting and not so exciting times. The level of enjoyment is the responsibility of both parties in order to have a fulfilling life together. Enjoy trying new things, tackling new challenges, and learning each other.

BMWK — What do you do to enjoy your marriage?