Cooking is an art. Like marriage, some of us are good at it and some, not so much. Those who are great at it don’t need a recipe. They have an innate sense of just how much spice to add to get the taste just right. But if you’ve ever watched a makeover cooking show, you’ll notice that even the best cooks get it wrong sometimes. Their food can lack flavor, originality, or texture and can come across as nothing special. Our marriages can fall victim to the same issues. They can lose flavor, texture, and originality. Well, use these three ways to spice up your marriage if you find your relationship is getting a little bland.
3 Ways to Spice Up Your Marriage When Your Relationship Starts to Get Bland
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- Spend time with younger married couples
- Say yes to something you’ve been saying no to
- Take a class together that creates intimacy
It’s hard to admit when things start getting stale in your relationship. Sometimes, you’re even unaware it’s happening. Life can present challenges and distractions that shift our focus from our relationship onto other high priority issues. Before you know it, those issues, like too much salt in your soup, take over the flavors in your marriage. In order to correct the problem, some changes have to be made. Here are a few ideas.
Spend time with younger married couples
Young people have so much energy. I love it. As your relationship matures, it can be easy to set aside some of the high octane things you did in your “younger days.” However, if you want to spice things up a little, find some young couples who remind you of you and your spouse. Engage in activities they engage in that perhaps you once used to but have stopped:
- Go out to a club
- Visit an amusement park
- Hang out at the beach
- Go ziplining
- Hike up and down a mountain
Take some of that young energy and inject it back into your relationship. As a side note, you don’t have to be older to act like an older couple. The point here is to find a couple or couples who you know have a high energy relationship and use some of that energy to bring some spice back to your marriage. If you are an older couple, you can also use the opportunity to share some of your life experiences and impart some wisdom to the younger couple.
Say yes to something you’ve been saying no to
One of the things that makes a marriage lose its flavor is not living outside the box. We get so trapped into doing the same things that it’s difficult to say yes to anything else. Perhaps your spouse wants to try something new but you’ve only been saying no, no, no. Well, spice up your marriage by saying yes for a change.
Does your spouse want to mix it up in the bedroom? Do they want to take a trip to someplace unusual? Perhaps they want to try a new kind of restaurant or go to a play instead of a movie. Maybe you should watch the chick flick or go all out for the big game. Whatever has been your steady “no,” flip the switch and “yes” it up. It’s sure to bring you and your Boo a little closer.
Take a class together that creates intimacy
Groupon and services like it are filled with classes that more than prime couples for intimacy. If you take a look, you can find ideas that have you holding hands, licking lips, and grinding hips.
- Salsa dancing classes
- Pottery making classes
- Art classes
- Cooking classes
One of the keys to spicing up your marriage is knowing how to touch your spouse. Some of these classes will have you acting out scenes Dirty Dancing or even Ghost. Engaging in that kind of role play in the classroom might inspire some cayenne spice type flavors to your relationship at home.
If your relationship has grown bland, be intentional and spice up your marriage. It doesn’t take much thought, it just takes action. Whatever you do, make it spicy!
BMWK, are you ready to spice things up?
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I Think a lot of couples need to try out these things and spice up their relationship because couples are so stressed with the working environment and the pressure of career that relationship takes a back seat
Joann Fisher says
I absolutely agree! Thanks for taking the time to read and comment.