The word foreplay typically conjures up images of lovers passionately kissing and embracing each other in a dark room softly illuminated by candles, with romantic music playing in the background.
However, foreplay can take on many forms outside of the bedroom.
In fact foreplay can happen anytime and anywhere. It should not be limited to the bedroom and only serve as the immediate prelude to sex. Foreplay is important because it delights the senses and ignites passion.
Couples should regularly and creatively incorporate foreplay into their daily routine to maintain a healthy and vibrant sexual relationship. Listed below are 18 ways to engage in foreplay anywhere at any time.
Verbal and Non-Verbal Foreplay
1) Hold hands with fingers interlocked while walking together
2) Steal quick glances
3) Make eye contact with long seductive gazes
4) Shower your mate with compliments
5) Flirt with your mate smile, wink, and blow kisses at them
6) Whisper your most erotic fantasy in their ear
Touchy Feely Foreplay
7) Stroke your man’s arm while holding his hand
8) Touch his chest, caress his face, or gently stroke his beard
9) Caress the back of his head a neck
10) Sit on the same side of the booth when dining out so you can stroke each other’s legs, arms, and thighs
11) Hold your mate around her waist or gently place your hand in the small of her back while walking
12) Stand behind your mate and gently kiss her neck and ears
Dress Up for Your Mate
13) Couples when you go out wear be intentional with your dress. Be sure to wear the things that your mate likes to see you in. Fellas suit it up for her or wear those jeans that perfectly show of your assets. Ladies show off those legs with a pair of sexy stilettos and a sexy dress.
Cater to Your Mate
14) When you’re out at an event with family or friends serve your mate by fixing their plate and keeping their glass filled
15) When dining out take the lead and order for your mate
16) Eating can be very sensual so share your food and feed each other
Love Messages
17) Send your mate sexy texts throughout the day
18) Excuse yourself while shopping, having dinner, or during halftime at your kid’s soccer game and go take a sexy pic and send it to your mate
Breaking Bad Habits
Rather than putting a nickel in the swear jar every time your mate says a bad word, have them pay for their transgressions with a 5 to 10 second kiss or embrace until they relax and melt in your arms.
These are all ways to build sexual energy with your mate all day wherever you are. Incorporate some of these ideas into your daily routine to reignite passion on your relationship.
BMWK, how have you gotten away with public foreplay?
Ms. says
Great article, but is there such a thing as too much forms of affection or being too touchy, touchy feel from a woman to a man? Don’t want to come off as being needy or clingy!
LaDawn Elliott says
Thanks Ms. For taking the time to read and respond to the article. I truly get what you are saying. Every guy that I have ever dated said I was to “cool for school” because I wasn’t touchy feely like other women they had dated. All that affection just wasn’t my thing and I didn’t want to appear to be clingy or needy either. But what I’ve learned is that GOD will continue to work on the things that you need to improve/change. Although I was adamant about not being “THAT” type of girlfriend, I seemed to only attract men that loved to touch, hug, and kiss…just very affectionate overall. I had to learn to relax and allow myself to be present in those tender moments and allow myself to be loved in that way. I assumed the more I accepted their behavior the more they would want. The converse happened, they didn’t need to connect anymore than they already were doing because I finally opened the door and accepted that type of love and even begin to reciprocate. I learned a new way to love and receive love. Additionally, as a Relationship Coach men have told me time after time after time…they need affection and physical touch. You can be affectionate in the ways detailed in the article and not appear needy. Do what feels comfortable for you until you are ready to do a little more. I’ve learned to stay present in the moment with my mate and not worry about peering eyes. I keep my public displays of affection classy and sassy. Please share the article with your friends and check out my Lip Service Lounge Facebook page for more relationship tips and articles.
LaDawn Elliott the “Relationship Rescuer”
Anthony says
As a man I would love it if my wife is touchy feely or/& is clingy with me. Every man is different so communication is the key. Though my wife really isn’t all that touchy feely but I am even after 9+yrs. Some ppl like my wife have been hurt or has gone through something that caused them to not be at ease with that part of a relationship. That’s why I feel open and honest communication is very much needed in a relationship. PDA for me is OH So WELCOME !!! I’m a very affectionate Father to my kids,hug them, kiss them,talk to them about everything. So, affection is very important in my life. (Anywhere)
LaDawn Elliott says
Anthony thank you very much for reading my article AND for sharing some “man” truth. I’ve told women for years that men need physical touch…it simply reaffirms for men that their women love and desire them. Men are physical beings therefore feely touchy is a language they understand and appreciate. Please feel free to share my article Anthony. Stop by and LIKE my Lip Service Lounge Facebook page for more tips of all things Love, Sex, and Relationship related.
LaDawn Elliott the “Relationship Rescuer”