I am a people person and have no problem starting a conversation with a complete stranger. It’s second nature for me. But I am often accused of flirting when I’m not. Because of this, I’ve made the connection that people are no longer used to socializing and meeting new people. Whether it’s the advent of texting, emailing or social media, real human interaction and all it … [Read more...]
5 Steps Toward a Healthy Relationship After Your Spouse Has Stepped Out on You
We recently discussed the 6 Brazen Signs that Your Spouse Might be Stepping Out on You. And, sadly, the article hit home with you. Maybe you discovered your spouse cheated or is cheating. So, now what. Well, if your choice is to try to save your marriage, healing after losing trust in your spouse is a process, not a one-time “I’m so sorry, I will never do it again” … [Read more...]
18 Ways to Engage in Public Foreplay Without Crossing the Line
The word foreplay typically conjures up images of lovers passionately kissing and embracing each other in a dark room softly illuminated by candles, with romantic music playing in the background. However, foreplay can take on many forms outside of the bedroom. In fact foreplay can happen anytime and anywhere. It should not be limited to the bedroom and only serve as the … [Read more...]
Single Ladies: 5 Ways To Make Your Next Date Your Best Date
In the previous article, I asked the fellas to step up and put the date back into dating. Now I’d like to talk to the sisters about how to be a great date! As a professional matchmaker, it’s my honor to interview men about what they’re looking for in a mate. And honey, I’ve heard some amazing stories about women’s bad behavior on dates that cause men to disappear! I call … [Read more...]
Should I Marry a Holy Man Who has “UNSANCTIFIED” Tendencies?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have read several of your articles and decided to ask a question that has been bothering me for sometime now. I am single Christian woman who spends the majority of my time in church or hanging out with church people. I am new to the church thing. I did not grow up in church, so I am still adjusting to the church environment. I guess I would say that I … [Read more...]
Why You Should End Your Facebook Affair Immediately!
“You’re looking good these days! You know I used to have a thing for you back in the day…” That’s an example of one of the messages you can see pop up in your Facebook messenger, coming from that old college or high school classmate. It feels good to have someone complimenting and admiring you again, so you play along. “Thank you, you aren’t looking too bad yourself and I … [Read more...]
5 Reasons Why Harmless Flirting Isn’t So Harmless
We all have those moments…you know the moments I’m talking about…those “I just want to see if I still got it” moments! The moments when you give a girl or guy the eye just to see who will reciprocate. The one where you put on your best outfit to see how many heads you can turn while you enjoy a night out with your friends. The times when you decide to just try some of your old … [Read more...]
That Awkward Moment When Someone Flirts With Your Spouse
As a spouse we should feel safe and secure in our marriage. There should rarely be a moment where we experience thoughts of doubt or anxiety over whether or not our spouse is still attracted to us. After the birth of children, weight gain, loss and aging, it’s no wonder we sometimes feel threatened or unsure of where we stand with our partner. Unfortunately, today, it’s easier … [Read more...]
Are Celebrity Crushes Always Appropriate?
If ever you sometimes scroll through the posts on Facebook, you'll often come across a photo of a sexy, scantily clothed celebrity. They are usually just coming out of a pool, submerged in water or just sitting in their bikinis or swim trunks poolside. Sometimes the photo was taken for the fans they knew would appreciate seeing them in this state. Fans are the ones who buy … [Read more...]
Is It Ever Appropriate for Your Spouse to Compliment a Person of the Opposite Sex?
Recently, President Obama has been in the hot seat for comments that he made about California Attorney General, Kalama Harris. On last Thursday, during a Democratic National Committee fundraising lunch in Atherton, Calif., he said: "She’s brilliant and she’s dedicated, she’s tough," Obama said of the California attorney general. "She also happens to be, by far, the … [Read more...]
We're Married, Not Dead
This past week as I watched an episode of the TV show "The Game," I had a truly random thought. As the actor Pooch Hall, who plays Derwin on the show, graced the screen I almost blurted out, "Damn, he's fine." In that same instance, I quickly came to my senses and realized how inappropriate that would have been to say out loud. Although my husband wasn't present as I watched … [Read more...]
“Harmless Flirting†Yeah Right!
By Tiya Cunningham-Sumter There's "no flirting" in marriage, unless of course, you are flirting with your spouse. A recent heated conversation revealed to me that there are people who really believe that no harm can come from flirting with someone other than their spouse or significant other. But on the contrary, harmless flirting can lead to a road of destruction for … [Read more...]