If ever you sometimes scroll through the posts on Facebook, you’ll often come across a photo of a sexy, scantily clothed celebrity. They are usually just coming out of a pool, submerged in water or just sitting in their bikinis or swim trunks poolside. Sometimes the photo was taken for the fans they knew would appreciate seeing them in this state. Fans are the ones who buy movie and concert tickets and offer support to various other projects allowing them to see even more of their favorite celeb. Being a fan is one thing, but having an obsession or unhealthy celebrity crush is another. There is a fine line that shouldn’t be crossed, in my opinion, when it comes to just how much we pant or swoon after another person.

Some might argue the point that the hot celebrity is someone we never have any real chance of hooking up with anyway, so what’s the big deal. Others might feel that our eye-popping and tongue-wagging could come across as disrespectful to our partners. There is a way to be a fan and admire God’s beautiful creations without going overboard. It’s natural to recognize the beauty of the Idris Elbas, Michael Ealys and Laz Alonsos of the world. However, that recognition can be harmful if it becomes annoying or hurtful to our partners. When in the presence of our mates, statements like “ooh, if I could get with him/her just one time” can leave our partners feeling a certain kind of way. Sometimes insecure or disrespected, whether joking or not.

It also depends on the type of relationship we’re in. We have to really know our partner and when we do, it’s simple. If it is something we know makes them uncomfortable, no matter how petty we might feel it is, we just can’t do it. There aren’t many people, I know, who want to hear their mate going on and on about how sexy or fine another person is, celebrity or not. I realize that just because we’re married doesn’t mean we’re blind. We can acknowledge the beauty, admire the physique, and keep it moving. Celebrities aren’t mythical, magical creatures, they are real people just like us. Some celebrity crushes are completely harmless and playful in nature, but when it turns to lust and disrespect, it will cause problems in our relationship.

BMWK, what are your thoughts, are celebrity crushes always appropriate?