I had no idea that professing ones love for their spouse on social networks would be frowned upon by others. In fact, sometimes it can totally piss people off. I have recently been made aware that some people do not appreciate this. I am told that married people who express their love this way are bragging, pretending to be perfect and/or must be fronting. This reaction shocked me and made me curious so I began to randomly ask people for their opinion on this subject. Some of the responses that I got blew me away. Here are some:
“Why don’t married people ever post pics of themselves when they are arguing?” (seriously?)
“I don’t mind it sometimes, but I don’t want to see it EVERY day.”
“Married people want everyone to think they are happy all the time.”
Wow. I really can’t figure out why someone loving another person out loud would bother anyone. Expressed love of any kind should not annoy… it should encourage and inspire. I get excited when I see people talking about engagements, births, new jobs and other accomplishments on my timeline. So as a person who quite often speaks of my husband in many Facebook posts, twitter posts, and anywhere else I might want, it really irritates me that people feel this way. If posting only happy thoughts and experiences makes people feel bad, then I wonder if posting only the bad things that go on would in turn make people happy? Is it jealousy? Is it envy? Regret maybe? I really dont know. If someone is posting something you don’t like why don’t you just unfriend/unfollow? Why subject yourself to the happy torture every day?
I have been negatively approached on Facebook in an Instant Message about this very subject myself. A perceived friend told me to “stop acting perfect” and “girl I know “ya’ll aint that happy…” For a split second I considered toning it down a bit, but then I said to myself, No Way! (which is the clean version of what I really said) Why should I turn it down? I did that person a favor and unfriended them. Social networking is the new way that we communicate, speech is free and I don’t see why I should censor my expressions of happiness there or anywhere else for that matter.
Hey, guess what? I LOVE MY HUSBAND! Saying that does not mean that my marriage is perfect. It just means that I love him. I am gonna say that here, on Facebook, Twitter and everywhere I can, until someone takes my keyboard away. I would shout it from the rooftops if I wasn’t afraid of heights. I love him and I don’t care who knows it. If it bothers you that someone loves their spouse, then maybe you should ask yourself what the real source of your issue is. While you figure that out, I am gonna continue to love my man.
BMWK – Do people give you a hard time about being happily married?