Dear Dr. Buckingham, I'm a young, single, and soulful black male who is attractive according to my female friends. I get a lot of girls’ numbers, but I can never seem to get past the first date. I grew up in a religious household, but other Christian girls won't give me the time of day. I embrace the essence of life and I am a passionate young man. I do not understand what I … [Read more...]
Should I Keep Dating My Young Lady or Find Someone Older?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am 35 years old and I am dating a 26-year young lady who has no job, but she is full of ideas. My fear is that she will rely on me. I am also fearful that about what society will say about the age gap between us. She looks younger than her age and I look more mature than her. Should I Continue Dating my Young Lady or Find Someone Older? Is It Better to … [Read more...]
What to Do When Your “Good Man” Won’t Commit
Being in a committed relationship is a want. It’s not a need or something we have to do. We have to make a choice to want to be committed to another person. So how do you handle it when you want a commitment, but your "good man" is dragging his feet on making that choice? Here is an example of a good man who was commitment adverse and how to deal with a good man who won’t … [Read more...]
Out with the Old: The Relationship Habits Singles Should Have Left in 2016
I know we’re barely mid-way through the winter season, but I’m already through with one pair of winter boots. Beaten and stained from the salt, they were not things that I wanted to hold on to anymore. Declaring "this is my last season for these," helped me think about other things I wanted to get rid of; what I wanted to leave behind as I go forward into 2017. "A time to get, … [Read more...]
Ladies: 7 Myths About Men that Might Be Ruining Your Relationships
It’s a New Year! And with a new year comes goals to be even better in life and in love than ever before. However, here's one big, bold relationship truth: If you bring the same old mindset and misconceptions about relationships into this “new” season, then you won’t have different results. So ladies, here are few myths about men (married and single) that you must stop … [Read more...]
One and Done: 4 Tips that Guarantee You More Second Dates
Do you dread dating because you can't figure out why men lose interest after the first date? Do you wonder why these guys come on strong when they first meet you and then flake when they say they'll call you again? Are you confused and wonder if you're "The First Date Queen" who can't get into a relationship because you're just not attractive enough? If you answered yes to … [Read more...]
Stop Self-Sabotaging: Here’s How to Nurture Real Authentic Relationships
Over the past year, God has put me in some very uncomfortable, yet, maturing situations. One of the hardest was having to cross paths and share the same space on a weekly basis with people I believed were out of my life for good, especially one in particular. We weren’t enemies, just old friends who parted ways, not so amicably. For the past 12 months, we had to adjust to … [Read more...]
Single Ladies: 3 Very Important Lessons You Should Learn Before Becoming a Wife
You don’t know what you really want until you experience it firsthand. But when you want to be married, how in the world do you prepare for it without compromising your standards? I recently learned a few valuable lessons (in a crash course) about what it’s like to be a wife—sometimes. No - marriage is not all about date nights, someone to cuddle with every night, or rubbing … [Read more...]
Singles: 4 Ways to Guard Your Heart and Still Remain Open to Love
A woman went on a great date with a man she’s been seeing for the past two months. After dinner, they went back to his apartment to watch a movie. She felt really cozy sitting next to her man on the couch, when all of the sudden, he looked at her and said: “I need some space.” She freaked out! Her mind began to race as she thought about all of the things she could have done … [Read more...]
I Admit I’m a S.W.A. (Sister with an Attitude); But How Else Can I Protect Myself from Getting Hurt?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am 25-year-old black single female with no children. I am writing you because I am having a hard time bonding with men. I don’t know where to begin. I just do not trust men. My father left when I was 12 after he abused my mother for years, and my two brothers are dogs. I want to be in a relationship, but I am afraid of being hurt. I have tried a … [Read more...]
Aim High or Aim Low? What Advice Do You Have for a Hopeless Single?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am a single female who is very close to giving up on meeting Mr. Right. Every time, I meet a man who appears to be good, things do not work out. I continue to date on a regular basis, but I do not expect much these days. I learned years ago that it does not benefit me to get my hopes up when in comes to men these days because I typically get … [Read more...]
Singles: 9 Spot-On Suggestions to Help You Step Up, Step Out and Search for Love
I often hear single people say that there are no good men or women out there. I wholeheartedly believe that assessment is inaccurate. There are plenty of good men and women out there. The issue may not lie with the fish that are caught, but rather the bait being used and where the line is cast. Ask yourself, honestly, would you want to date you right now? Are you fishing … [Read more...]
When an Ex Moves On, Do You Mope? NO. Here Are 3 Reasons to Rejoice
We might not ever admit it, but we all secretly hope to find a new romance before our exes do. But what happens when your ex has moved on—or even worse, got married— before you? It's a strange feeling, right? We see this often from the celebrity tabloids to the social media status updates. It's all juicy entertainment until it happens to you. And I’m not talking about your … [Read more...]
As a Single Man, What is the Best Thing I Can Do to Find a Wife?
Dr. Buckingham, I am a successful young man who wants to have a wife and children in the near future. A few years ago, I relocated from the South to D.C. with the belief I would have better prospects. I am approaching my mid-30s, and I feel discouraged about my prospects. I meet women who appear to be good for me, but things just never work out. I have not been able to … [Read more...]
4 Empowering Truths About Love that You Won’t Learn in “Those” Facebook Groups…You Know the Ones
I'm a member of several Facebook groups that were created under the premise of eliminating the "battle of the sexes" between men and women. You know the ones where you’re supposed to find advice and encouragement to assist you in finding love or strengthening your relationship. Yet, all you see is a bunch of name-calling, stereotyping and just really bad advice. There are a … [Read more...]