A few weeks ago, I took part in chat on Twitter about making #bossmoves at work and as entrepreneurs. One of the key nuggets that was dropped was that entrepreneurs usually have at least 5 streams of income going for them. This was something that I knew and something that I practice. I am up to four now: my current job, various freelance writing/blogging gigs, a part-time … [Read more...]
The 3 Worst Reasons to Get Married
A couple of weeks ago, I had a conversation with one of my young mentees who was sharing some of her frustrations with me. She had been dating her boyfriend for several years and was upset because, although she felt she was ready to get married, he wasn't. Mind you, he had given her a promise ring and had already stated that he intended to marry her—when he had his life in … [Read more...]
3 Reasons Why You Need Your Sleep; Your Body Will Thank You
Over the last month, I have been ripping and running, here and there, working seven days a week, and feeling basically harried and sleep-deprived. Over the course of the month, I started to notice some scary things: my heart was beating faster, I had gained a couple of pounds, and my skin was looking crazy. In our fast-paced world, sleep is one of the first things we … [Read more...]
Why Saving Isn’t Good for Your Money
I have a favorite uncle. I consider him a mentor. When I tell him that I love him, the other end of the phone goes quiet. I know he is blushing. That’s just how Caribbean old school men do. I love and I understand it. Well, one day, I called him to tell him how I was progressing in life, especially when it came to my finances. I was trying to impress my uncle by telling him how … [Read more...]
Should Husbands Object to Their Wives Wearing Bikinis?
I know a lot of ladies made up their minds that 2014 would be the year that they get their fitness game right. Instead of just talking, they committed to working out, eating healthily, and monitoring their stress levels to ensure that they could be svelte for the spring and summer. They created vision boards, maintained fitness journals and even enlisted the emotional support … [Read more...]
10 Essential Dating Tips for My Teenage Son
As much as I want to slow down the hands of time, it is inevitable that my kids have to grow up. As they journey into young adulthood, we still need to be there to guide them in the right direction. Since my son is the oldest, I'm starting with him. Here are 10 essential dating tips that I am giving my teenage son. Note: This is for DATING...not marriage. That's an entirely … [Read more...]
I Had to Die for My Marriage In Order for It to Live
As of September 2014, my wife and I will have been married 9 wonderful years. We communicate everything, we are 100% honest at all times, we share our fears and support one another. But, in the beginning we were both selfish, manipulative, disrespectful to one another, and downright ignored how the other person felt. We were headed towards that downward spiral called divorce … [Read more...]
Is It Time For a Maid? When Low Maintenance Living Becomes Costly
I was at the birthday dinner for one of my friends earlier this month. It was a beautiful image: laughter, children, and sisterhood—all that good stuff we need to make it in this world. I was having a good time. A new mother and social worker sat across the table rocking her baby in her arms and shared, “ my low maintenance style of living is really becoming high … [Read more...]
Single Parents: 4 Things Your Kids Are Learning from Your Relationships
As a single father, I’m always careful about who I date, who I bring around my children and deciding the right time to bring that special someone around my children. Those are important concerns to think about when raising a child. Your children deserve to see you happy and in a productive relationship. Not only is it good for you, but it’s good for the child to see what a … [Read more...]
How Long Should You Wait Before Renewing Your Vows?
I worked with a woman that told me that she was looking forward to renewing her vows with her husband on their tenth wedding anniversary. They were planning to have a destination wedding in Jamaica. My initial thought was, “How wonderful!” My next thought as a newlywed was, “Wow, that’s a long time from now.” On my way home, I started thinking about this concept some more … [Read more...]
How Long is Too Long to be Just Dating?
Many women have asked me how long is too long to be dating or when they should expect to see their relationship take a step to the next level. Decisions like this have to be a topic of conversation in the relationship. As a man, if I’m OK with where we stand, or I don’t anticipate getting engaged, we need to have that discussion. I can’t tell you exactly how long is too … [Read more...]
Start, Stop, Continue: 3 Ways to Improve Your Relationship
In my work in the technology field, we had an exercise we called, “Start, Stop, Continue.” The premise was for individuals to work with their supervisor or manager to decide what they needed to start doing which would enhance their work, what could they stop doing as it relates to the job and what they agreed the employee should continue doing as a best practice. Since I … [Read more...]
It’s Still Cheating: Are The Holidays Making You Financially Unfaithful?
No one likes to talk about it, but preparing for the holiday season can really create financial tension within a marriage. On the one hand, we know that the holiday season is that time of the year where, we, as a nation and global community reflect on what peace, goodwill, and love for our families and our fellow human being means to us. But if we were honest, we also know … [Read more...]
Don’t Hate, Emulate: Use Facebook As Your Motivator
Two days ago, I was scrolling through my Facebook feed and saw a picture of one of my former professors. She had moved to Abu Dhabi to teach and was standing in a mall and surrounded by a number of ex-pat sorors that she had met since moving there a few years ago. “Wow,” I told myself and I immediately texted my girlfriend that had just returned from living and teaching in … [Read more...]
5 Ways To Safeguard Your Purchases and Wallet While Doing Your Holiday Shopping
The holiday season is not only a time for giving; it’s also a time for taking. Yes, it’s sad but true. While you may be thinking of ways to spread holiday cheer, there are those among us plotting and scheming of ways to separate you from your money and all of your holiday purchases. But don’t fret! Here are some tips to keep those sticky fingers from ruining your … [Read more...]