It has become a well-known fact that women cheat in relationships as often, if not more than men. Though the stigma is more often attributed to the husband, wives shouldn't get comfortable and think they can't be found to step out on their men. A cheating spouse is a cheating spouse no matter the gender. Cheating Spouse: 5 Signs You Could Be Cheating on Your Husband You … [Read more...]
5 Lies You Tell Yourself When You Decide to Cheat
Lies...lies...lies! Your marriage heads for rough waters when you make a decision to go outside of your relationship with your spouse to get a certain need met. You make excuses that seem plausible because you are convinced that need can't be met within your marriage. But, while it's different strokes for different folks, there are five lies you tell yourself when you decide to … [Read more...]
Affair Triggers: 5 Tips to Help When You or Your Spouse Have a Flash Back
Remember the scene from the movie “Best Man” where Lance fights flashbacks of betrayal running through his head at the altar. Yet, somehow, he finds the strength to marry Mia despite her having slept with his best man Harper. He doesn't allow the flashbacks that could be a setback to keep him from making a decision and commitment to move forward in his relationship. While this … [Read more...]
After the Affair: 6 Faith Strengthening Scriptures to Help Restore Trust in Your Union
Yesterday, I let you guys in on some of the crazy that happened to me and, quite honestly, some of the crazy that happens to anyone who finds their marriage embroiled in the aftermath of an affair. After the ugly crying and blame shifting were over, I could only do one thing, turn to God and His power. It was in that power that I was able to remember my faith and trust Him once … [Read more...]
After the Affair: 4 Scriptures to Reignite Your Faith and Save Your Marriage
When a marriage goes through its ups and downs, where do you turn for guidance? I can honestly and wholeheartedly say to you that if it was not for my faith our marriage “Never Would Have Made It” through the storm! Glory to God our marriage not only survived the storm but we are lying under a beautiful rainbow covering! See most married couples have it twisted. Twisted in … [Read more...]
Here’s Why You Shouldn’t Judge People Who Choose to Save Their Marriage After an Affair
Let’s keep it real. In today's society, it has become way too easy to slap judgment on someone for just about any reason. Now imagine having the label of cheater. Maybe you are like me and know all too well what that feels like so you don’t have to imagine. Well, the flip side of this is being the spouse who was cheated on. With judgments being freely handed down, there's a … [Read more...]
Revenge Cheating: 5 Ways it Sabotages Both Marital and Individual Recovery
"Last night was well worth it!” Imagine reading this text message on your husband’s phone. How would you react? Well, I don’t have to imagine and I can tell you exactly how I reacted...minus the cuss words of course. Being cheated on can cause you to lose your religion! The interesting dynamic in our marriage is that we both cheated. Neither of our affairs was … [Read more...]
How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage By Guarding Your heart
In my most recent article 3 Ways to Fight for Your Marriage and Win After an Affair, I shared how my husband and I had reached an impasse in our relationship. With each of us having forsaken our vows and engaged in extramarital affairs, things weren't looking good for us and we had decided to separate. But God placed it on my heart to attempt to reconcile with … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Fight for Your Marriage (and Win) After an Affair
Affairs are messy. I'm not trying to be glib but for lack of a better word, messy just fits. Everything becomes a mess when a man, or woman, "puts asunder" what God has joined together in holy matrimony. When asked to write this article, I was first reminded of the fight of my life. My marriage had become a mess and was breathing its last. Sadly, I saw no way to resuscitate it. … [Read more...]
Beyoncé’s “Lemonade” Public Praise or Private Prison – To Tell or Not to Tell?
The day after “Lemonade” debuted I awoke to the masses wanting to quench their Lemonade thirst on my Facebook timeline! Having not been a big “B” fan I had to do some research, having missed the big HBO debut. However, I was able to locate a free trial via Tidal (which is owned by Beyoncé & Jay-Z; do you see how genius and strategic this power couple played this?). I … [Read more...]
Do I Tell His Wife about Our 3-Year Affair?
As a speaker and life coach, I encounter all sorts of dilemmas. But I was recently written by a young woman, who was weighing a decision to reveal a troubling secret—a secret that would undoubtedly open the emotional flood gates for all parties involved. I understand other women may be considering the very same dilemma, so I wanted to share. I’ve paraphrased a bit of her … [Read more...]
The Biggest Lie Men Tell Themselves to Justify Cheating
By: Debrena Jackson Gandy There’s that nauseous sensation in the pit of your stomach, then the realization finally hitting you like a blow to the gut – “I think my spouse is having an affair.” I know the feeling well because in our marriage, we experienced mutual serial infidelity. This means that both my husband and I have been on both sides of infidelity, as both the … [Read more...]
Is it Possible to Affair-Proof Your Marriage? Try These 3 Action Steps
Many marriages suffer an affair and even many more than that contemplate the idea of an affair. The decision to step outside your marriage is a personal choice. However, there are safeguards you can put in place. Here are 3 actions to help safeguards your marriage: [imagebrowser id=287] … [Read more...]
VIDEO: How Long Does it Take to Recover From an Affair?
From DivorceBusting.com: https://divorcebusting.com/blog/ Couples come to me all the time, frustrated that they haven't gotten over their incident of infidelity. Recovering from an affair takes time. There are no short cuts. Even after two months, in most instances, this news is still hot off of the press. The affair recovery period often takes much closer to two … [Read more...]
How to Save Your Marriage During an Affair -DivorceBusting.com
Michele Weiner-Davis gives advice on what you should do if your spouse is having an affair and it may not be what you think. Tell us your opinion in the comments section. … [Read more...]