Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been married 33 years. My husband says he no longer loves me and is very adamant about it. He has cheated in the relationship a number of times. I'm a Christian and have asked him about counseling and he refuses. I am at my wits end. I am considering divorce. Should I Remain Married Although My Husband Rejects Me? Do you have any advice for lonely … [Read more...]
I Despise my Cheating Spouse: Should I Seek Vengeance?
Hello Doctor, I'm writing this out of pain and anger. I've been married since November 2015—only eight short months. My husband and I live in different cities, and the plan was for me to relocate to be with him. During my visits to see him, I noticed he was getting attention from other women. He was receiving text messages from women, and I found out he was visiting them … [Read more...]
I Never Knew What Betrayal Felt Like, and It Almost Ruined Me
We usually learn everything we need to know about relationships from the ones we experience around us—mostly our parents, friends, neighbors, etc. For better or worse, those experiences prepare us, usually toughening up our armor to take our own battles for love and happiness in the outside world. But for those individuals who are ill-prepared for the fight, what happens … [Read more...]
Stop “Waiting To Exhale”! Unpack The Emotional Baggage And Build Lasting Love
Are you free to love? We all say we want successful relationships. However, some people carry so much emotional baggage that it hinders them from freely loving the people in their lives. Emotional baggage is a term used to describe unresolved emotional issues, which can be detrimental to the individual. Relationships can be challenging enough without the added pressure of … [Read more...]
How Can I Work Through My Wife’s Emotional Roller Coaster After I Cheated
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My wife and I have been married going on ten years. Two years ago I allowed myself to engage in an affair with someone that works on my former job. Sad to say I did this act while my wife was pregnant with our third child. The affair lasted 10 months and it ended. To put it out there I thought I was being slick thinking no one would find out, especially … [Read more...]
How Do I Recover After Being Betrayed by My Partner?
Hello Dr. Buckingham, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Overall we have a great relationship. We pray together, we spend a lot of time together, we laugh and always enjoy each other's company. We are in the midst of talking about marriage and have signed up for pre-marital counseling to help us in this journey. Recently I shared something with him regarding what I … [Read more...]