You might be thinking your spouse doesn’t like being questioned. The truth is, not very many of us do. Each individual has their own communication style, including the way they listen, respond and process information. The majority of us have trouble processing information that arrives via nagging, negative energy or even too many questions. 10 Very Specific Questions to Ask … [Read more...]
Help! My Wife Goes Ballistic About Everything; and I’m Thinking of Divorce
Dr. Buckingham I have been following you on Black and Married with Kids for sometime now, and I appreciate the advice that you provide to singles and couples. I was hesitant to write you, but I broke down because I am very close to leaving the woman I swore to love forever. My wife and I have been married for 10 years, and I have been dealing with her out of control … [Read more...]
Major Key Alert: Wives Give Real Talk on How to Have an Exceptional Marriage
As a single lady who desires to be married, I constantly get messages on social media about dating, courtship and marriage. These messages come in the form of wedding photos, smiling faces, relevant scriptures and empowering statements, which are all fine, but sometimes you have to dig deeper. Single people who desire to be married one day should be intentional about … [Read more...]
Help! My Husbands Says I’m Nagging, so How Can I Express Myself Better?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I are going through some things, and I do not know what to do. We argue on a regular basis because both of us feel invalidated. I often tell my husband that he does not listen to me, and he tells me the same thing. To be honest, I grew up in a house where my three older brothers would shut me down, so I never really learned how to … [Read more...]
5 Common Mistakes Wives Make When They Want Better Communication
Common concerns in some marriages are that women desire better communication and husbands desire more intimacy. Would you agree? Each of these areas are crucial to a healthy marriage, so both partners have to be mindful when it comes to making them happen more frequently. Husbands typically want their wives to desire them a little more and actually want to be intimate with … [Read more...]
When You Think You’ve Tried Everything…32 More Actions to Improve Your Marriage
I'm going to get straight to point. If you and your partner are having difficulty communicating, then you owe it to yourself and your marriage to try everything you can to improve the situation. I know it gets hard and frustrating sometimes....like you're beating your head up against a brick wall. But your marriage is worth fighting for. And when it seems like you've tried … [Read more...]
One Simple Yet Effective Way to Improve Communication in Your Marriage
Unfortunately, there is usually so much room for error and misinterpretation with relationship communication. Half listening, talking while the other partner is speaking, making up our own false conclusions, and misinterpreting the words our partners say, are just a few of those bad communication behaviors we need to remove. We constantly say it’s the most important aspect … [Read more...]
5 Steps to Having Safety Zone Conversations with Your Mate
Unrealistic expectations, lack of commitment, insurmountable financial debt, and abuse are only a few issues that millions of couples encounter during the course of their relationship. These common yet devastating issues are all symptoms that mask the real cause of why relationships fail. Couples often wonder; what is the secret to maintaining a successful relationship. The … [Read more...]
Which Pet Peeves Should You Actually Discuss in Marriage?
Effective communication eliminates confusion, brings clarity to disagreements and is needed to create relationship solutions. The better a couple is at communicating, the stronger their partnership will be. Sharing what’s bothering you, your goals for the relationship and what you need in order to feel loved, are all necessary conversations to be had. As a Love Coach, I am … [Read more...]