Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am kind of embarrassed to be asking you this question and putting all my business out in the air, but I am too ashamed to say anything to my family or friends. I have been with only two men in my life and I am 38 years old. I recently went to the doctor because some weird stuff was going on with my body and I found out that I have genital herpes. I … [Read more...]
My Wife Continues to Cheat, What Should I Do?
Dr. Buckingham, My wife and I have both committed adultery in the past and I thought it was behind us until recently. I found out back in December that my wife had an affair on me. The affair ended in November when the guy she had the affair with broke it off. Since then my wife has joined a band that this guy is in and doesn't believe this to be a problem. My Wife Continues … [Read more...]
My Spouse is A Chronic Cheater: What Should I Do?
Hi Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been married for 3 years now but he has been cheating on me even before we got married. When I was pregnant with our daughter , his ex was also pregnant from him as well. Our babies would have been a few weeks apart but she had a miscarriage. After our daughter was born, he promised that he would stop cheating and I forgave him and … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: My Husband Is Sexting with an Ex: What Should I Do?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I've been married almost 2 years come May. My husband and I have been butting heads for awhile now. I found out 5 months after we were married that he was entertaining text messages from his ex-girlfriend. It started right after we were married with a "congratulations" on Facebook and progressed into sex-texting. I found out because he slipped and hit his … [Read more...]
How Many Ways Are You Choosing to Cheat on Your Spouse?
That's a pretty blatant statement, I know. It's a phrase that I first heard, used by a teacher named Andy Stanley and it stuck with me. How does the phrase sit with you? What comes to mind when you hear that phrase, "Choosing to Cheat"? I'm sure it depends on where you are in life, at this moment, and your mindset towards this word and act of cheating. Anything from cheating … [Read more...]
VIDEO: Short Film Addresses – What Happens When Your Spouse is a…CHEATER!
You may have watched the hidden camera TV show, Cheaters. I've been unfortunate enough to allow it to steal some of my time. To me it is a mix of a bad detective show, Jerry Springer, and a bad comedy. But it touches on something that affects many marriages. It dives into what happens when you find out your husband or wife is a...Cheater! Infidelity in marriage is no … [Read more...]
Can an Affair Save Your Marriage?
Is your marriage is trouble? Are you in a rocky place and you really don’t know what to do to fix things? Have you considered an affair? Don’t worry, I am not there with you so you can be completely honest right now? If you have, do you think that having an affair might save your marriage… that it might make you stay? If your answer is yes, you aren’t the only … [Read more...]
6 Ways to Effectively Manage Temptation
by Dr. Dwayne L. Buckingham I recently attended the viewing of Tyler Perry's most recent movie, "Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor" and I really enjoyed the storyline and message. The movie explored one of the most self-destructive evils that has caused suffering for mankind since the beginning of time - Temptation. Whether it is playing with infidelity, … [Read more...]