Having a happy marriage shouldn’t feel like some elusive goal. Despite all the negativity you may hear or see, happy marriages do exist. They don’t just happen by chance, though. A happy marriage is something that happens when each partner is willing to do some individual work, and together the couple is willing to work on their marriage. A happy and healthy marriage … [Read more...]
I Want My Husband to be Happy, Even If It’s Not With Me!
By Cassandra Paul 19 years is a long time to be with someone. Change is inevitable. I was delusional to believe that the handsome young man I married long ago would remain the same. Don’t get me wrong, he is still handsome, even the more but he is definitely not the same young “whipper-snapper” I snatched up at the age of 23. He’s better in some areas. There’s always room … [Read more...]
5 Needs Your Spouse Can’t Meet No Matter How Hard They Try
Out of all the men in the world, I am glad I have the one I have. Sure, we have our differences, and I am certain we can get on each other’s last nerve, but when all is said and done, we bring out the best in one another. What we have works. I am grateful for that. But let’s talk a little bit more about the times when we get on each other’s last nerve. When my husband drives … [Read more...]
Should Love Be Enough?
I love my husband. When I said my wedding vows, I meant every word. Would I still love him if he lost his job? Of course I would. Would I still love him if he lost his job and was doing nothing to figure out how to provide for our family? Yep, I would still love him. Would I love him if he lost his job, stopped caring about providing for us, and decided to sleep with anything … [Read more...]
The 4 Most Valuable Lessons on Happiness I Learned from My 10-Year-Old
When I think about the things that made me happy as a child, it was usually simple stuff like the ice cream truck, playing jump rope with my friends or drinking Kool-Aid. Have you noticed how it seems to take so much more to make you happy the older you get? I’ve had to really ask myself why that was as I went through some changes in my life that caused me to re-think my … [Read more...]
4 Feelings that Every Black Woman Should Experience in 2016
I know it’s New Year’s resolution time. This usually means that we talk about things that we want to do and want to accomplish. We break out the scissors and the glue and create beautiful vision boards with all of the people, places, and things that we want to meet, go, or purchase. And don’t get me wrong, I’m all for it. I still have my vision board from last year which … [Read more...]
The Ugly Truth About Failing to Forgive
In recent years I have uncovered a great deal about who I am. Some of these discoveries came to light after getting married, while some reared their heads when I became a mom and when my own mom got sick. Life experiences, both good and bad, have a way of showing us who we really are—whether we like it or not. In managing the day-to-day struggles life offers us all, I have … [Read more...]
9 Easy (and Mostly Free) Ways to Love on Yourself Today
So many of us look for others to show us the same love that we have yet to show ourselves. But how can someone love you more than you love yourself? I’ve learned that you will always attract to yourself who you are. So if you want to attract the right people into your life who will appreciate you, you’ve got to show yourself some appreciation. Here are a few easy ways to … [Read more...]
A Happy Bachelor Shares 5 Reasons He Decided to Get Married
For the record, single life was treating me well. I didn’t feel I was missing anything in my life. I think that’s what makes this union so great. We were whole people when we came together. We help each other, not out of necessity but because we want to. We want to see each other succeed. We are going to another level because we make each other better. Here are some of … [Read more...]
How to Find Happiness, No Matter Where You are in Life
Happy is what most of us aspire to be. Sure, we want wealth, love, a nice home, a great career and all that other good stuff, but we only want those things because we believe that having them will make us happy. But have you ever wondered whether or not you truly know how to be happy? Are you able to embrace joy without feeling like something negative is lurking around the … [Read more...]
Are People Happier With or Without Kids?
Until recently, most research has shown that those without children are more satisfied in life than those who have them. Several new studies have concluded, however, that data may not be completely accurate anymore. Princeton University and Stony Brook University published a report in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Science that found "very little difference" … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Experience More Joy and Happiness in Your Marriage
Joy and happiness are two elements of a healthy marriage. They sound like the same thing but really they are very different. Yet, both are needed. A marriage can have highs and lows, challenges and smooth sailing. Still, joy and happiness can be experienced every day. They are not something that you and your mate experience on holidays or a few times a year. It is possible … [Read more...]
Being a Happy Wife is Essential to Your Marriage
Everyone knows the saying "A Happy Wife, A Happy Life". And while it may sound selfish to some, the truth of the matter is that it takes a lot more to make a woman happy than it does a man. And just from my own experience, I've learned the importance of believing in and loving myself first, instead of waiting for my husband to express that for me. Last week, I wrote about some … [Read more...]
Marriage: Only Grown Folks Need Apply
I state the following only because at times I have been guilty of it myself: There is a game of love, but marriage is not a game. Marriage is not for the faint of heart nor for children. You are in this together for the sake of each other to make two better together than apart; To enjoy life and make it rich in ways money can't provide. It isn't a competition. It isn't about … [Read more...]
Happily Married vs. Happily Single
Is there such a thing as being “Happily Married?” Yes my friends; this is the question that was posed to me on Twitter recently and while I was taken back by it, after I gave it some serious thought I realized that there is a fundamental disconnect that might need to be addressed. Many times I feel like there is this consistent battle that never ends between married people and … [Read more...]