If you’ve ever wondered what your life would be like if you didn’t marry your spouse, you’ve probably faced some tough times in your marriage. Sometimes, those rough patches are related to major issues like infidelity, but not always. Sometimes, it can just be a compilation of unresolved issues that have taken place over the years. Whatever the case, thinking about being … [Read more...]
Not Willing to Change for Your Spouse? But What About for Your Marriage?
In my coaching practice, I always bring couples to the realization that they can’t change their partners. As frustrating as it may be, that particular partner has to have a desire to change. But often, when you find a partner worth the sacrifices that accompany change, it will naturally happen. After I met and married my husband, I quickly realized a few of my behaviors … [Read more...]
Is Your Marriage Holding On by a Thread? Advice for Couples Survival Mode
One of my greatest passions is helping couples. I listened to God’s calling on my life nearly 10 years ago when He guided me into becoming a certified life and relationship coach. Since then, relationships and marriages have been my business. Everyone who knows me, knows how much I love the idea of love and how fascinated I am about making it work. This is the reason it … [Read more...]
For a Strong and Healthy Marriage, These 2 Options Better Be Off the Table
It is a brand new year and a great opportunity to revive your marriage. You and your partner may have struggled and barely made it through another year of marriage. There may have been more disagreements than you would have liked and even harder to find solutions. Believe me, you weren’t the only couple last year to wonder if your marriage was going to survive. There were … [Read more...]
Wake-up Call: 3 Things that Are Truly Getting in the Way of Your Happy Marriage
Whenever you set goals, whether general life or career, you should envision achieving your desired outcome. It is also important, and necessary, to set an honest timetable to fulfill your dreams. Additionally, a crucial part of goal setting is being aware of possible obstacles that could affect your success. If it's for business, the challenges usually include scarcity … [Read more...]
Stubborn Spouse Alert! 3 Ways Being ‘Set in Your Ways’ Is Damaging Your Marriage
Have you ever taken a stand on something you felt was critical to either your personal growth, your success or even a worthy cause? Your commitment was probably unwavering. There was nothing anyone could say to change your position. Your mind was made up and you may have challenged anyone who challenged your thinking. Related: Here's how considering your spouse's point of … [Read more...]
5 Excuses You Can No Longer Use for Why Your Marriage is Broken
I could always tell when my husband and I weren’t on the same page. There would be negative energy in the air. Or we would probably dwell in separate areas of our home because we just needed our space. Whatever it was, it wasn’t a secret. Either one or both of us had said or done something to set the other one off, and it was obvious that we were off course. The same can be … [Read more...]
How to Heal and Deal With Betrayal in Your Marriage
A few of the expectations we enter into our marriages with are pretty valid. Love, respect, communication, and faithfulness are all reasonable requests, in my opinion. It’s selfish to enter a union and not be willing to demonstrate those core values. So when our spouse does something other than what they promised, or the least of what we expected, a sense of betrayal and … [Read more...]
12 Signs Your Marriage Will Survive Through Conflict
Remember your very first big disagreement as a couple? You probably thought, "Okay, I haven't seen this side of him/her". Or, "Is this what I have to look forward to"? Both of which would be valid concerns. The reality is, in love, you're going to get frustrated. Things won't always go your way and sometimes you and your mate will not see eye to eye. It's okay. You might … [Read more...]
5 Reasons People Share Relationship Hurt on Social Media, and Why They Shouldn’t?
Recently a friend shared with me a Facebook post from a wife who had been cheated on by her husband. Now I am use to seeing those generic posts of someone complaining about certain situations in their lives, but I have never witnessed anything quite like this. There was clearly no doubt about the pain this wife was experiencing as a result of the broken trust. She not only … [Read more...]
Are You Saving Sex for Divorce?
I encounter quite a few individuals in committed relationships who are aware of their partner’s desires and yet still struggle to meet those needs. In most cases they have heard their spouse complain time and time again about what is missing in the relationship, and for some reason they wait until the breaking point has arrived before they decide to actually do something about … [Read more...]
5 Things You Are Not Required to Do in Your Marriage
In my coaching practice I am usually quick to highlight the actions a couple should take in order to maintain the joy and peace in their relationship. Also equally important is reminding both partners of the things they actually don't have to do, that they may have assumed were necessary for their marriage. When we marry we sometimes think we have to be our spouse’s … [Read more...]
What to Do When Your Efforts Are Unmatched in Your Marriage
Are you feeling a little overwhelmed in your relationship? Is all the effort to keep your marriage afloat usually added by you? Does your spouse seem disinterested in the healing and rebuilding of your partnership? If any of this sounds familiar, allow this post to minister to you and be encouragement for your marriage. First of all, pray, pray and pray some more for … [Read more...]
3 Wise Actions That Will Transform Your Marriage
Over time, situations, people and lives change. Our situations improve, people mature, and we all know life is simply a series of constant transformations. Usually we don’t have much control over certain life changes. Unfortunately, we have no power over illnesses or who leaves this earth and when; but what we do have authority over is the type of partner we become. One of the … [Read more...]