Dear Dr. Buckingham, My marriage has been torn apart because of the actions of two people that I love to the moon and back. My husband of 6 years slept with my younger sister. My younger sister came to stay with us after she graduated college. We allowed her to stay with us until she got on her feet. My husband is 42 years old and my sister is 22 years old. You might be … [Read more...]
Can a Marriage Survive Infidelity That Results in Childbirth?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I was reading one of your articles online at Black and Married With Kids. I have a question and/or need some direction on where to go for help in restoring my two year old marriage. My husband told me of the affair two days post our annual anniversary trip with two other couples/friends. The news came to him by way of another couple that we know. A … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Fight for Your Marriage (and Win) After an Affair
Affairs are messy. I'm not trying to be glib but for lack of a better word, messy just fits. Everything becomes a mess when a man, or woman, "puts asunder" what God has joined together in holy matrimony. When asked to write this article, I was first reminded of the fight of my life. My marriage had become a mess and was breathing its last. Sadly, I saw no way to resuscitate it. … [Read more...]
Should Married Couples Get Regular STD Tests?
There are perks to being married. You've got a built in friend, some new tax breaks and you no longer have to worry about unprotected sex. Right? As singles, many of us were familiar with having to take precautions to protect ourselves from STD's as well as having yearly (or more frequent) screenings. But, once we get married is that something we should continue to do? The … [Read more...]
Deal with Cheating in Your Marriage; Don’t Just “Move Past It”
Marriage isn't easy and I'm sure many of you know that. It takes a lot of effort to maintain a happy home where both parties are truly getting what they need from each other. In many cases, this harmony between a couple is not being achieved which opens the door to many things such as cheating. The day you find out that your partner has cheated on you can be extremely difficult … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: My Husband Is Sexting with an Ex: What Should I Do?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I've been married almost 2 years come May. My husband and I have been butting heads for awhile now. I found out 5 months after we were married that he was entertaining text messages from his ex-girlfriend. It started right after we were married with a "congratulations" on Facebook and progressed into sex-texting. I found out because he slipped and hit his … [Read more...]