Earlier this year I went away for a weekend to spend time with my girlfriends. It was amazing! We did all of the things women tend to do when they get together. We ate well, drank wine, laughed, cried and shared our hopes and dreams. My spirit was so refreshed and energized when I returned home. As a busy wife and mother with a thriving career, it was nice for me to just be … [Read more...]
What Exactly is the “Work” People Say Is Required in Marriage?
How often have you heard the phrase, "marriage takes work"? This saying usually raises concerns to those who are considering marriage. Married folks definitely make it sound a lot harder than it actually is. Those single folks who were already on the fence can easily be persuaded to remain single at the thought of "work". I mean who really wants to work when it comes to … [Read more...]
I Don’t Trust My Husband Because He Doesn’t Respect Me: What Should I Do?
Dear Dr. Buckingham Hello, I have a few questions regarding my marriage. We have been together for 3 years and married 2, one issue is that I have never met, seen nor spoken to the other parent of my spouse's child. I am almost never informed when they are speaking or communicating with each other. It really bothers me because I find myself questioning my trust for them. We … [Read more...]
Don’t Let Hurt and Pain Take Up Permanent Residency in Your Home
Let me just say this right up front. This is not a write up to give you all the answers. I can’t do that. Most times, the answers are right in front of us or inside of us. But, we are too hurt to open our eyes wide enough to see the truth. This article is to give you a place to share, to speak the pain and release it. Putting up a front like everything is okay is tiring. … [Read more...]
7 Signs You’re Unhappily Married and What You Should Do About It
I consider myself a happy wife. Am I happy with my husband every single day of the week? Not at all. Is he happy with me every day? I doubt it. I mean, neither of us is perfect. But, we’ve found a way to understand each other – most of the time—and the challenges that are thrown our way on a daily basis are manageable. We do our best to keep the other happy and usually we get … [Read more...]
BEWARE: 5 Bad Influences on Your Marriage
Extra special care and attention should always be given to that which is of the greatest value to us. As parents we wouldn’t leave our children in the hands of perfect strangers. On our jobs, we wouldn’t assign one of our most important projects to someone who was incapable of completing it. The same respect should be given to our most cherished relationship, our … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Show Her She is Still Your Number One
Do you know of a woman who wants to feel like they take second place in your life? I didn’t think so. As wives, we want to know we are the number one lady in your life. You may say, “She already knows I love her, isn’t that enough?” To be honest no, it isn’t. To say you love someone and have little to no corresponding action is not enough. Love is spoken, demonstrated, felt, … [Read more...]
The Truth Is…Marriage Can Be Heaven on Earth
Make no mistake, Heaven on Earth takes work. Marriage is work. It takes effort and energy to succeed at anything worth having. This includes marriage. Effort is put into losing weight; into getting a promotion or new job; into getting closer to God our source; and countless other things. This same effort is needed to support your successful marriage. When concerted effort is … [Read more...]
How to Identify 5 Streams of Savings; Right Now
A few weeks ago, I took part in chat on Twitter about making #bossmoves at work and as entrepreneurs. One of the key nuggets that was dropped was that entrepreneurs usually have at least 5 streams of income going for them. This was something that I knew and something that I practice. I am up to four now: my current job, various freelance writing/blogging gigs, a part-time … [Read more...]
10 Ways to Get Alone Time with Your Mate When You Have Small Kids
You need time alone with your mate. It goes beyond wanting or desiring; you need time with your mate. Time alone is valuable to your marriage relationship. It is understandable that some of us can spend more alone time with our mate than others because of different schedules and lifestyles. Nonetheless, even with small kids and busy schedules, thoughtful planning can get you … [Read more...]
Husbands: 2 Things to Consider Before You Give Up on Your Marriage
Lately, I've been receiving a lot of question from women who have recently separated from their husbands. He either cheated or he didn’t understand what marriage required and doesn’t want to be married anymore. As a Christian husband, I feel compassion for these women, because they were dooped (I mean) led into a marriage by men who now don’t want to fight for the very thing … [Read more...]
How to Fight when the Favor God Promised In Marriage is Tested
As I was spending time with God a few weeks ago, I was lead to write in my journal. When I began to write, I heard the Holy Spirit say that the next 3 months would be very pivotal months of our marriage because God is preparing us for greater level of exposure and increase. Yes, I got very excited at the thought of productivity and more opportunities, but not at all did I … [Read more...]
3 Hard Lessons I’ve Learned From Being Married
Every single one of life's trials has its lessons, and it's up to each one of us to actively learn what life has to teach us... less we repeat the same unnecessary trials. After almost 9 years and through one separation, here are 3 valuable lessons my marriage has taught me. You have tied your life to someone else's decisions We're all taught that we are all responsible for … [Read more...]
5 Thoughts about Marriage I’d Share with A New Bride
If I were to sit with a new bride and tell her about marriage, there are many, many things I would like to share. We could talk about her building her new home. We could chat about when to have kids. We could even talk about cooking his favorite meal. The list could go on and on. The topics are endless. However, limiting my thoughts because of time and space I would share with … [Read more...]
The “Write” Way to Communicate Effectively with Your Loved Ones
In any relationship there will be ups and downs. One of the keys to having more ups than downs is being able to communicate effectively with our loved ones. Whether it’s a spouse, partner or child, communicating effectively seems simple enough when times are good but the slightest disagreement or misunderstanding can derail and ruin even the best relationships forever. Two … [Read more...]