“A lot of people are in love with the PICTURE of marriage!” That was the first quote that caught my attention today at church as it’s something so simple...yet so true! People often wonder why the divorce rate is so high and I would argue that this is one of the biggest contributors. Marriage is beautiful and there are so many great things about it. But, there are some … [Read more...]
The Very Sight of My Mate Gets On My Nerves: 4 Ways to Overcome this Ugly Feeling
What do you do when the very sight of your spouse gets on your nerves? Many of us have been here at some point in time. Let’s face the facts – at some point the best of us have challenges, even to the point that the very sight of your spouse gets on your nerves. I’m definitely not saying this is a good place to be. As well, it’s a spot you want to get out of as soon as mentally … [Read more...]
Fellas: Your Wife Is Not Your Mother!
“You treat me like your secretary!” That’s what my wife said to me and I blew it off the first few times. She recently said it again but this time I stopped and really thought about it. The fact is that anything that involves logistics like making sure bills get paid, planning activities, and things making sure affairs are in order, I was pushing them off on her. Then, I … [Read more...]
A Good Wife’s Cheat Sheet
My goal as a wife is to smother my husband with love. I intend to love on him by spending time with him and being verbal and active in how I demonstrate my commitment to him. It's not always easy to be the spouse I desire. Effort and energy are both required, which I don't always possess. Frequently, I am tired. I have a lot on my plate career wise, so time is limited. My … [Read more...]
Five “L’s” that are Essential to Every Long-lasting Marriage
I will be married for two years in the next couple of months. Granted, we’re still new to marriage, but I have to say that my husband and I have grown and grown up so much in our marriage. I love our marriage and over the last two years have noticed that these were some of the elements that have strengthened it. Laughter My husband says that I am a two-year old. He thinks … [Read more...]
‘Til Death (or Drama) Do Us Part
As newlyweds, I think it’s important for us to take it upon ourselves to put in the work to continue to build on the pre-marital counseling my wife and I decided to get. It’s important to us that we are constantly thinking of ways to continue to work on our marriage, even though it is fresh and new. That said, I was in a group that we attend with other married couples and one … [Read more...]
My Wife Is Insecure: What Can I Do to Make Our Marriage Work?
Greetings Dr. Buckingham, I just read a post of yours and had to send you an email about my concerns. I am a married late 30 year old with two kids by my wife and have an older son from a previous relationship. My concern is similar to the post "my-ex does not know we are married". I want to thank you for sharing advice to our community. My concern is that--in my opinion- … [Read more...]
Three Surprising Marriage Lessons Learned from a Newborn
Almost three months ago I gave birth to my third baby. He hasn’t been in the world for a full quarter, but he’s already teaching me some important life lessons. Without even knowing or trying, just by being a baby, my little boy is teaching me how to be a better spouse through things like… The way that he smiles - Even when he is responsible for some of my roughest nights, … [Read more...]
Love Didn’t Make You Do It, But Here is What Did
Letting that woman run all over you. Following that man to see where he has been going. Impregnating her or letting him get you pregnant even when they aren't aware of your intentions. The list goes on and on. Ask that person why they did it and many will utter the phrase "love makes you do crazy things". I'm sure you have heard it before. It doesn't matter how stupid or crazy … [Read more...]
What to Do When Your Efforts Are Unmatched in Your Marriage
Are you feeling a little overwhelmed in your relationship? Is all the effort to keep your marriage afloat usually added by you? Does your spouse seem disinterested in the healing and rebuilding of your partnership? If any of this sounds familiar, allow this post to minister to you and be encouragement for your marriage. First of all, pray, pray and pray some more for … [Read more...]
Is Your Husband Really the Problem?
Life isn't always easy. Sometimes you think maybe I just woke up on the wrong side of the bed today, only to realize that you've been waking up on the wrong side of the bed every day for months. So of course, when that realization hits you, you start looking for someone to blame. After all, it can’t possibly be your entire fault, right? Unfortunately, you later find yourself … [Read more...]
5 Marriage Secrets from Our Favorite Celebrity Couples
by Nora Jacques We see them on the big screen, we see their faces on the magazine covers and we all wonder “how do they do it?” Marriage is difficult enough without worrying about the paparazzi, bad publicity, complex business deals and challenges that many of us can’t even imagine.Yet, we see these elite couples: standing strong, facing adversity, living in the public … [Read more...]
After Nine Years of Marriage, I’m Finally Ready to be Married
After nine years of marriage, I don’t know if I’ve learned a whole lot. I knew it was going to be difficult. I knew it would be a challenge. I also knew it had the potential to be one of the greatest experiences of my life. As a kid, I didn’t really have a decent example of marital bliss since I was raised primarily by my single father. He always made sure we had a maternal … [Read more...]
9 Tips to Help Your Marriage Survive the Unexpected
I am a planner. I like to know what I am going to do long before I do it because it allows me to be prepared. It’s not that I’m incapable of doing something spontaneous, but I’m not the one typically taking the lead if spontaneity is involved. One of the reasons I’m like this is because I am not a huge fan of surprises. I don’t want anyone or anything just rolling up on me. I … [Read more...]
3 Actions that Can Destroy Your Marriage in the First Year
Your first year of marriage is the most exciting time of your life. It is the opportune time to lay a solid foundation for the rest of your life together. Over the course of your first year, the majority of your time will be spent learning one another, adjusting to new life schedules, and doing life together. While you are learning the ride of marriage, it is easy to shy away … [Read more...]