Does it seem that every time you start to get close she pulls away? You think maybe she is the one and then she goes into hibernation. It feels like she is purposely doing things to keep you at a distance. If this is happening, know she is not crazy but, she does have a past. Here are 3 reasons she may be pulling away even though she cares about you very much. Hear what she … [Read more...]
My Marriage Was Headed for Doom, Until I Did this One Thing
When people meet Lamar and me, now, they comment on our marriage. They thank us for the work that we are doing in the community to support and uplift marriages. And they are always asking us what the key to a happy marriage is. Many of them are assuming that we have a happy marriage because of our public persona. And fortunately for us, that assumption is correct. It’s been … [Read more...]
3 Simple Marriage Goals That Will Transform Your Life
The beginning of July is always an important time for me. It’s a time when I pause and reflect on what the first half of the year has been like and what I’ve accomplished. When I reach this midway point I ask myself, is this where I thought I would be by now? The answer to that questions lets me know what’s next. As most people do, I am sure you probably established … [Read more...]
Stop Waiting on Your Spouse, 3 Ways You Can Change Your Marriage for the Better
Your marriage is meant to grow. It is meant to thrive and fulfill both husband and wife. Marriage should keep changing for the better. Nothing and no one stays the same. I know sometimes it feels like it is the other person that has some growing to do. But truth be told, we all have some changes we need to make. It may feel like if your mate would change everything would be … [Read more...]
Are You Dating a Married Man? Here are 6 Red Flags that You Are
One of my single friends came to me for some advice about a man that she was dating. While I don’t consider myself a relationship coach, I do consider myself a pretty good judge of character, so when she shared with me some of her dating experiences with this particular man, it was clear that this man was not fully single. This man, more than likely, was married. Here are … [Read more...]
5 Things that All Married Couples Who Intend to Live Happily Ever After MUST Do!!!
Most couples enter marriage with a false sense of security. They believe that love will fill all of their empty spaces, erase negative emotions, make their mate telepathic, and protect them from hurt. Simply put, most couples enter marriage believing that love will conquer all. Most newlyweds are rendered temporarily blind by the euphoria of love and starting a new life … [Read more...]
Who Comes First, Your Mate or Your Children?
Recently I commented on a post that had a topic very similar to this. After leaving my comment I began to think about two things (1) organizational charts and (2) good customer service. Successful organizations have order and structure and some type of hierarchy. Successful organizations also typically have good customer service. When a place has good customer service, you will … [Read more...]
3 Things Women Should Never Do to Their Men in Public
With more women becoming successful on their own terms, it’s easy to get caught up in the definition of Ne-Yo’s “Independent Woman” and forget how to be in a healthy relationship with a man. I grew up not really understanding the male ego or how to deal with it. Relationships were just not something we talked about in my home, so I had to make it up as I went. The problem … [Read more...]
The One Thing I Wish I Had Done Before I Got Married
I’ve heard it said that most people prepare more for their wedding than they do for their marriage. In my case, I’d have to say it was true. Weddings are usually exciting, fun-filled events that get everyone caught up—so much so that, often, we don’t take a minute to stop and think about what happens after the honeymoon. I got married at 23. I had just finished college the … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Use Your Phone to Keep the Communication and Sexiness Flowing in Your Marriage
I will be married for two years this November. Super stoked. Getting to a place of peace, respect, and intimacy, though, took a lot of deliberate practice, a lot of mistakes, and a lot of trial and error. (Anyone that says that marriage should be effortless and not require work needs to take a seat…all the way in the back.) In the last two years, I have found that marriage … [Read more...]
The Only Tool You’ll Ever Need to Increase the Amount of Sex, Connection, and Happiness You Experience in Your Marriage
For a while, my husband and I were not on the same page. I felt that we did not go out enough. He felt that we went all of the time. I felt that we were not connecting enough. He agreed: he felt that the number of rolls in the hay could increase even though I was not talking about sex, I was referring to talking. I was tired of the fighting and realized that I did not want … [Read more...]
Why You Need A Date Night in the Next Two Weeks
One of the things a couple can do to ensure they keep their relationship fresh and exciting is to schedule a weekly date night. This should be a standing appointment that couples make a firm commitment to keep. This standing weekly appointment should be the most important, respected, and valued event on your calendar. Keeping this commitment communicates to your partner that … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Quickly Improve Your Marriage
Whether your marriage is in the pits, good, great, or awesome, these 5 tips can quickly take you to the next level. Reading the tips won’t do it. It’s in the application that stems from a place of love - love for yourself and for your mate. [imagebrowser id=283] … [Read more...]
The Ideal Number of Bank Accounts a Married Couple Should Have
I attended a beautiful wedding ceremony a few weeks ago. He was Italian. She was Jamaican. This was his second marriage. This was her first. He had two children that he brought to the marriage. She, on the other hand, was looking forward to starting a family with him. The pastor candidly spoke about the complexities of having an interracial, intercultural, blended marriage. … [Read more...]
Why Your Wife Doesn’t Feel Beautiful Anymore
Soooo the other night I sat at a table with my wife, sister, and another young lady and I literally listened to them talk about eyelashes for 30 minutes! As much as I wanted to get up and leave, I stuck it out just to see where else the convo would go. Well next it went to nails and OMG who knew the science that goes into choosing a nail color, type of nail, and the shelf life … [Read more...]