A few years back, my wife and I were in the middle of searching for a new place to live. Our lease was up, and we had a few weeks to find a new address. We were procrastinating, but it was time to get serious with our search. One night while on the couch, we sat in another night of endless silence. The symbolic chasm seemed too deep to navigate. For years now that rift between … [Read more...]
Can a Troubled Marriage Survive Without Forgiveness?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My wife and I have known each other for 5 years before we were married and we've been married for 4 years. We have 3 beautiful children and I have one from a separate relationship. In the past before we were married I was unfaithful and did some things to this day that I am not proud of. Since we have been married, I have been faithful to her but the past … [Read more...]
The Very Sight of My Mate Gets On My Nerves: 4 Ways to Overcome this Ugly Feeling
What do you do when the very sight of your spouse gets on your nerves? Many of us have been here at some point in time. Let’s face the facts – at some point the best of us have challenges, even to the point that the very sight of your spouse gets on your nerves. I’m definitely not saying this is a good place to be. As well, it’s a spot you want to get out of as soon as mentally … [Read more...]
Why Isn’t Your Marriage Working?
Some marriages don't work because individuals are usually focused on the wrong things. I love when the readers on BMWK share their stories, ask for suggestions and are completely honest. Admitting our marriage is in trouble in such a public forum is true bravery, in my opinion. Asking for guidance and being vulnerable usually comes as a result of a true desire for change. … [Read more...]