I’ve heard women say time and time again that they need some adventure in their lives—a bad boy. They say nice guys just don’t cut it because they are boring. That argument has always left me feeling puzzled because I can’t understand why anyone would intentionally avoid a nice guy. Plus, what sense does it make to make such a blanket statement about all nice men as a … [Read more...]
No Chemistry on a First Date? Our Professional Matchmaker Tells You What to Do Next
When I first saw my husband, everything about him screamed, “I am a confident, ALPHA male.” However, when he asked me out on our first real date, all of that went out the door. We look back and laugh about it now, but at the time, it was a really awkward moment. Here’s what happened: I’d invited him to spend Thanksgiving dinner with my family, and he accepted even though … [Read more...]
5 Things She Means When She Tells a Guy, You’re Too Nice
I recently had a brief conversation with a friend and he was trying to understand what a very close female friend of his meant when she said "Oh, you're just too nice". I honestly never had to tell a guy that, and I wasn't even sure what a woman could possibly mean by telling another man that. But we hear it all the time "nice guys finish last". To me, it's just always been a … [Read more...]
Do Nice Guys Still Finish Last?
How many of us have had a crush on the “bad boy?” There was something about him (besides the fact that your mother and/or father hated him). He was mysterious, a risk taker, and a master of words. We would find ourselves hanging on to every one of them. He was also usually a jerk and forget heartthrob, he was a heartbreaker. And then somewhere along the road something … [Read more...]
Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?
by Delano Squires One of my favorite movies about dating and relationships is Spike Lee's film She's Gotta Have It. It was released in 1986 but still offers useful commentary on a number of issues, including sexuality, honesty, monogamy, and our perceptions of acceptable gender roles. The movie follows the love life of the protagonist, Nola Darling, as she manages the … [Read more...]