For a while, my husband and I were not on the same page. I felt that we did not go out enough. He felt that we went all of the time. I felt that we were not connecting enough. He agreed: he felt that the number of rolls in the hay could increase even though I was not talking about sex, I was referring to talking. I was tired of the fighting and realized that I did not want … [Read more...]
Five “L’s” that are Essential to Every Long-lasting Marriage
I will be married for two years in the next couple of months. Granted, we’re still new to marriage, but I have to say that my husband and I have grown and grown up so much in our marriage. I love our marriage and over the last two years have noticed that these were some of the elements that have strengthened it. Laughter My husband says that I am a two-year old. He thinks … [Read more...]
A Super Easy Date Night Idea for Couples with Big Dreams
My husband and I take turns planning our monthly date night. For my last turn to plan, I was stumped for ideas on what to do. This was around the time for me to start preparing my annual vision board, and while I was going through my magazine collection, a thought came to me. I realized that creating a vision board was something I only ever did alone. My husband and I talk … [Read more...]
9 Easy (and Mostly Free) Ways to Love on Yourself Today
So many of us look for others to show us the same love that we have yet to show ourselves. But how can someone love you more than you love yourself? I’ve learned that you will always attract to yourself who you are. So if you want to attract the right people into your life who will appreciate you, you’ve got to show yourself some appreciation. Here are a few easy ways to … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: How Can I Determine if I am Getting Quality Time?
Dr. Buckingham, I am confused about whether or not I should move forward with marrying my fiancé. He works very long hours and does not like to miss opportunities to make money. He is a good guy, a great provider and protector, but he does not meet my emotional needs. When we are together he showers me with gifts, but I do not feel like our time together is quality. I am not … [Read more...]
5 Cheap Date Ideas for Couples
Aiight...times are hard out here. I know more people who are unemployed, losing their houses, losing cars, having to cut back on nearly everything now more then ever. And if you're not careful about how you handle your finances and your decision making during these times, this could very well be the season that destroys your marriage. And I know a lot of couples who look at … [Read more...]
Is It Time For a Maid? When Low Maintenance Living Becomes Costly
I was at the birthday dinner for one of my friends earlier this month. It was a beautiful image: laughter, children, and sisterhood—all that good stuff we need to make it in this world. I was having a good time. A new mother and social worker sat across the table rocking her baby in her arms and shared, “ my low maintenance style of living is really becoming high … [Read more...]
12 Things to Put on Your “Family Bucket List”
I'm sure you all have a bucket list of your own personal things to do, people to meet and places to go. Well, how about making it a family affair? Make a bucket list and look forward to crossing things off each month as a family! It will be fun. Keep the family fun going each month, so mark your calendars and use this ENTIRE YEAR to cross of the items as you accomplish … [Read more...]
How Long Should You Wait Before Renewing Your Vows?
I worked with a woman that told me that she was looking forward to renewing her vows with her husband on their tenth wedding anniversary. They were planning to have a destination wedding in Jamaica. My initial thought was, “How wonderful!” My next thought as a newlywed was, “Wow, that’s a long time from now.” On my way home, I started thinking about this concept some more … [Read more...]
A Real Father Isn’t a Babysitter
I heard someone say in passing that a child’s father was going to babysit so the mother could run errands. Babysit . . . really? When did the actual parent of a child turn into a babysitter? Not only is this flat-out wrong, but it’s also demeaning. Dads do so much more than babysit. In my home, babysitters are a necessity. I appreciate the care and attention they give my … [Read more...]
What’s Your Fight Song? How You Can Use Music to Empower You
Within each one of us resides a story where music influenced our emotions. Music, by design, has the power to overwhelm, to anger, to provide solace, and to empower. We can pinpoint instances where music made us feel things we do not want to feel at times and places we did not want to feel them. Imagine driving home and being so moved by a song that you are forced to pull over … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Re-Kindle Your Sex Life
"Once you get married the sex stops!" Yup if you want to know one of the main reasons men hesitate about getting married it's because this is what many other men tell them the minute they mention marriage. Well the truth is that this line of thinking did’t just fall out of the sky; men aren't just making this up? However, is there more to this story? There has to be another … [Read more...]
The ABC’s of a Passionate Marriage
Sometimes marriage can get stale as the daily routines set in. It’s easy to slump into a comfortable existence but why not revive your relationship from dull and dismal into powerful and passionate. Try these tips to pump life into your marriage. A.... Always find new ways to show your spouse how much you care about them by occasionally leaving sexy notes, kissing for at … [Read more...]
Pssst…Fellas: Wanna Know How to Really Turn Your Wife On?
Okay before you get really excited, I will start by saying that it has absolutely nothing to do with whip cream, whips, lotions or other erotica. Rather, these are little things you can do almost instinctively to guarantee you won't always be the one to initiate the love making. 1. Be domestic sexy without us having to ask you to be...ok seriously, contrary to popular … [Read more...]
What Your Spouse Misses About the “Younger You” …(but won’t admit)
A few weeks ago I saw this is adorable romantic comedy called This Is 40. It was a good movie, but it was also a wake up call about who my husband and I have evolved into over the course of our marriage. Yes, we accept the good, the bad and the ugly, and without thought, accept the physical and emotional changes that come with time. However, the reality is, we're not the same … [Read more...]