Ever since I wrote an article, explaining how my husband married me 11 months after we met despite originally telling me he wasn't looking for a relationship, I've had sisters tell me that my story goes against every piece of advice they've read, which encourages women not to waste their time with men who make it clear from the beginning that marriage is not on the menu. So … [Read more...]
My Husband Stopped Being Romantic, and I’m Over It. But He Still Wants Sex
I was recently sent an email from a BMWK reader. In it, she sought help. She was feeling neglected in her marriage. Her husband had stopped displaying affection and stopped giving her attention, but he still expected intimacy. She admitted that her desire to have sex with her husband had dwindled, but that was mostly because she felt she was no longer mentally engaged. She … [Read more...]
Single and Sabotaged; How Your Friends Are Killing Your Dating Life
Are your friends keeping you single? I know that may seem like a weird question to ask, especially because as the saying goes, we choose our friends, not our family. In other words, our friends are people who get to see us in the good and the bad, and they still choose to stick around! As a result of that connection and community, our friends give us a safe place to be … [Read more...]
5 Reasons Why Your Kids Can’t Be Your Only Reason for Staying in an Unhappy Marriage
I recently had a long conversation with a friend about relationship troubles, raising kids and the decision to stay or leave. She seemed to be facing so much confusion about the choices she needed to make. I felt empathy for her because I can only imagine how hard it is to decide if you should stay with the man you have kids with or leave because you simply are not happy with … [Read more...]
3 Truths You Need to Accept if You Want Your Man to Change
Isn’t it funny how we always want people to change? Yet, we sometimes struggle with changing the simplest things about ourselves, like what time we wake up or what we do when a family member tries to start drama. And I’m guilty of it, too. I have wasted countless hours figuring out how to get someone to change, wondering why he or she won’t change, praying for him or her to … [Read more...]
Single Men, You’ll Regret Waiting to Pursue a Relationship. Here Are 7 Ways to Prep for Love
I’m pro-relationships. As a relationship consultant for 16 years, I coach, teach and cheer for successful happy relationships every day. Yet over the years, I've noticed something different about relationships (or rather the lack there of). For single men in 2016, picking a woman is not a top priority—not like it used to be in the late 1940’s thru the 1970’s. I believe … [Read more...]
I’m Not Your Ayesha Curry, and I Shouldn’t Have to Be to Get a Husband
The Curry family seems to be this year's media darlings. Dad and NBA MVP Stephen Curry continues to mystify on the basketball courts. Daughter Riley continues to captivate us with her cuteness. And mother and wife Ayesha also throws herself in the public eye as an avid Twitter user and cooking enthusiast. But after her December tweet, the public image of Ayesha Curry seemed … [Read more...]
4 Ways to Stop Social Media From Ruining Your Relationship
I have a love-hate relationship with social media. I can’t avoid it because of the work I do, so it’s a very necessary part of my life, but some days I could do without it. I entered the world of social media with resistance, but here I am, along with so many of you. Once we are in it, our job is to manage it well. I was one of the last people in my group of friends to get a … [Read more...]
3 Relationship Lessons I Learned From My Unmarried Parents
As children, if you were like me, you also paid attention to the grown-up relationships around you. I was always curious about love, so when grown folks would talk, especially about relationships, I was all ears. For the most part, a great majority of us were taught how to show up in a marriage by observing the behaviors of our parents. They were our first real teachers of … [Read more...]
4 Empowering Truths About Love that You Won’t Learn in “Those” Facebook Groups…You Know the Ones
I'm a member of several Facebook groups that were created under the premise of eliminating the "battle of the sexes" between men and women. You know the ones where you’re supposed to find advice and encouragement to assist you in finding love or strengthening your relationship. Yet, all you see is a bunch of name-calling, stereotyping and just really bad advice. There are a … [Read more...]
Five Types of People to Avoid Receiving Marriage Advice From
Everyone wants to be an expert in love. Ever notice how many people have an opinion on what you should do in your relationship? Certain people may mean well, but you don’t –nor should you—have to accept every piece of relationship advice offered. Couples have to be selective when it comes to sharing the challenges they experience in their relationship. Surprisingly, everyone … [Read more...]
Singles: 5 Eye Opening Love Lessons I Learned from Not Dating for Over 3 Years
By: Marcee Woodard When I was single, nothing was more frustrating than feeling like I was ready for my prince charming, but all I kept getting was his pet frogs. I knew what I wanted and I knew what I deserved, but with each failed relationship, it seemed further out of my reach. I longed to find the perfect guy for me. But, there was just one problem: I wasn’t … [Read more...]
Couple Shares 4 Relationship Secrets to Their 50 Year Strong Marriage
Relationship Goals! That's what I thought when I saw a couple celebrating 50 years of marriage. My husband and I were celebrating our 7th year wedding anniversary at the time and we noticed the couple as they walked in the restaurant because of the slogan on their matching T-shirts: "The First 50 Years Are The Hardest." I actually had a chance to hear wisdom … [Read more...]
2015’s Top 10 Relationship Articles for Singles that Want to Be Married
As we close out 2015 we’re reflecting on all the content you’ve come to know and love over the past year. Here are the top 10 articles our singles loved and read the most. Enjoy! #1) Confessions of Church Players: What Sisters Can Do to Protect Themselves Have you ever dated a church player? These are men who profess to be Christian, and manipulate you with religious cliches … [Read more...]
Surviving Your First Fight with Your New Boo in 5 Easy Steps
During the beginning stages of your relationship, everything your new Boo does is cute. You love spending every waking moment together, and, when you're apart, you FaceTime just to say good night. And then, out of the blue, you have your first fight. Maybe it's over something stupid, like which radio station you should listen to while you're driving home from your … [Read more...]