Dr. Buckingham, I am having a hard time in my marriage because my husband believes that I am too self-centered. I grew up with three older brothers and spent most of my life having them do everything for me. When I met my husband 8 years ago, I was used to being taken care of. He knew that I could be a little self-centered when he married me. Now he wants me to change and be … [Read more...]
3 Tried and True Keys to Getting Into Your Marriage Flow
Your marriage flow is uniquely yours. No one can copy it. You can’t imitate someone else’s. Your marriage flow is stamped with the fingerprint of you and your mate. It is as unique as you are. You won’t find this definition in Webster’s dictionary. However, here is what it means to me. Marriage flow is the rhythm of your relationship. The heartbeat, the pulse that keeps you … [Read more...]
Singles, 10 Ways to go from Selfish to Selfless
It's not about you. It's not about you. It's not about you. Singles, we have the misconception we often feed, that we can be some selfish creatures. Some books and other people will tell you that being single is a stage of enlightenment and a time to only be "taking care of me" and other clichés that come with false independence. That kind of thinking fits very well with how … [Read more...]
Reasons Why “We” Are More Important Than “Me” in Marriages
I stand before you with a confession to make. I’ve been caught red handed and I am GUILTY. Myself along with some other men aren’t guilty of cheating or infidelity, but we stand before you guilty of being men that actually have FEELINGS. We stand before you guilty of desiring a little appreciation from our women without it turning into a competition of who did what and why. … [Read more...]
How Giving Actually Increases Our Own Lives
Considering the characteristics of our financial lives, I believe giving to others is the most underrated, most overlooked and most gratifying component of our financial lives. When we give to other people it does something to us physically, emotionally and often spiritually. When people give from the heart, they show their selflessness and compassion for other people. … [Read more...]
“Surviving” The First Year Of Marriage
by Latoya Irving Now the honeymoon is over. Some of you are discovering each other's bad habits, wondering if you made a mistake. Don't fret - some of those feelings are normal. Here are some tips to help you survive the first year of marriage: 1. Pray, pray, pray. If you have never needed prayer before, you are going to need it now! Pray for each other, but most … [Read more...]