Everybody has an opinion on San Francisco 49ers’ quarterback Colin Kaepernick, who is protesting by refusing to stand during the national anthem. Kaepernick started his protest to shine a national spotlight on, and bring change to, America’s perceived wrongdoings against people of color. Most people I know agree with his message. Even if they don’t agree with him, they … [Read more...]
3 Sure-Fire Ways to Make Your Wife Want to Submit to You
SUBMISSION… is one of those dirty words in the Bible that make women cringe…and distort their top lip. It triggers a guttural reaction. If you're a man, you'll want to pay attention. If you’re a woman, it’s likely, you’re reading this article to see how wrong I am (and thus, slay me in the comments section below). And I understand why the notion of a wife submitting to a … [Read more...]
When Just Being a Good Husband Isn’t Enough: 3 Steps to Becoming a More Confident Man and Better Spouse
Husbands, What if you don't believe in yourself? It's an issue every man has wrestles with at least once in his lifetime...no matter if he admits it or not. From the alpha-male, who beams with self-confidence, to the shy introvert, who fears confrontation. When the Struggle Gets Real During a Relationship Bootcamp, a couple was doing a very strenuous activity. They were at … [Read more...]
True Story: How Dare You Break the Rules You Wanted for Our Marriage!
True story… James and Melissa (Mel) were in year 0 of their marriage. They had only been married a few months. One issue they had to deal with was how James was going to handle women from his past—many whom Mel knew and many with whom he was still in communication with because they all moved in the same circles. After much discussion (mostly James trying to explain why … [Read more...]
Stop Obeying Your Wife: 4 Important Clues in Discerning Your Wife’s Preferences
I was talking to Brent, a husband of four years. He was complaining about how his wife, as he put it, "be trippin’." He was frustrated with how his wife kept upping the ante of things she wanted him to do. “As soon as I do one thing she asks, she’s quick to add on something else. I told her, ‘just give me a list of what you want so I can know what you want me to do…and do … [Read more...]
LADIES: It’s Unacceptable to Compete for a Man…Until You Reach This Point
I saw the shift take place in the 90s. In fact, I was a part of it. I went to college in the late 80s. Back then, girls had all the power. Guys would clamor for their attention. Girls would sit back…pick and choose whoever they wanted to date. If you weren’t tall, light-skinned with good hair and nice eyes…you were showt (adj. [show-T]. urban pronunciation of ‘short’; … [Read more...]
Single Men, You’ll Regret Waiting to Pursue a Relationship. Here Are 7 Ways to Prep for Love
I’m pro-relationships. As a relationship consultant for 16 years, I coach, teach and cheer for successful happy relationships every day. Yet over the years, I've noticed something different about relationships (or rather the lack there of). For single men in 2016, picking a woman is not a top priority—not like it used to be in the late 1940’s thru the 1970’s. I believe … [Read more...]
“Happy Father’s Day…Mom!” Should Single Mothers be Honored on Father’s Day?
One Father’s Day morning, Lil’ Joe gave me a Father’s Day card at church. I was so thankful! He was 10 years old back then. And when Jasmyn was 20, she gave me this beautifully hand-written Father’s Day card. I was so humbled. But I couldn’t help but wonder if Lil’ Joe also gave a card to Big Joe, his father. And if Jasmyn wrote her father a nice Father’s Day card … [Read more...]
If Jay-Z Actually Cheated on Beyoncé, It’s Because He Didn’t Do This One Thing
I don’t know if Jay-Z cheated on Beyoncé or not. We may never know the truth. But if he did…if he can’t be satisfied with one of the baddest chicks on the face of this Earth…then there’s something inherently wrong with all humanity. Right? Truth be told, I think there’s something inherently wrong with all of us. We all are inherently flawed in one way or another. I’ve … [Read more...]
Black Men, It’s Time to Get Your ‘ISH Together; Black Women Are Tired of Waiting
Event #1: I was at a restaurant, supporting my friend Tiffani’s blog launch. There were a good number of single women there. So…Tiff shouts me out and shouts out my Relationship Bootcamp business I run. “Hey ladies, I’m going to go to Heath’s Relationship Bootcamp for Singles. We all should go together,” she said encouragingly. That’s when the necks started rolling, teeth … [Read more...]
11 Ways to Tell if Social Media is Impacting Your Life and Your Relationships
What’s going down in your DM? (that’s Direct Messaging…for those who don’t know) Are you living out your alter ego on social media? How many pictures do you take…just to post one photo on Instagram? The amazing advances we’ve made in cellular technology have had some unintended effects on our emotional well-being and health. Insecurity, low self-esteem and depression are just … [Read more...]
Is 85% of What You’re Looking for in a Man Enough? 3 Clues You Might Be Settling
You’ve been dating for four months, but it’s not ‘official’. You like him, buuut…you don’t know if you like-him-like-him. This is the predicament Sarafyna is in (her girls call her Fe’). He’s into her. She’s interested in him. But she doesn’t know if she should move things forward as a friend—or as a boyfriend. And this is not an issue of picking someone who’s bad for her … [Read more...]
3 Keys to Influencing Your Wife without Being a Controlling, Manipulative Jerk
I wanted to have a Super Bowl party this year but my wife wasn’t feeling it. I knew that before I even brought it up, but I wanted to have one anyway. I could’ve been like, “Why can’t I have a Super Bowl party with my friends? I pay the mortgage up in here, too!” That would have been brute and would’ve been too controlling and resulted in a much bigger problem in the near … [Read more...]
6 Tricky Transitions New Marriages Face and How to Make It Through Them
IT'S THE MARRYING SEASON! Final plans are being made…and paid for. In just a few months, love-birds across the country are gonna go down the aisle single…and come back up blissfully married. If that’s you, you probably went through some sort of pre-marital counseling class. But there are some things that happen after you come back up the aisle that no pre-marital counseling … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Get the Love You Deserve…Without Begging Your Mate For It
Jada Pinkett-Smith is on some-ole…Public Enemy – Fight the Power…type-a stuff. In response to what some are now saying is the Academy’s continual snub of Oscar nominations of black actors, directors, and movies starring black actors in leading roles, Jada took to social media and published a 2 ½ minute soft-spoken, yet Sista-Soulja-esque, canon-over-the-bow shot at the … [Read more...]