To all the Christian ladies out there, are you wondering why Christian men prefer dating a non-Christian woman? When I started talking about this topic, I was surprised by how many single Christian men spoke up. They shared their own reasons as to why they no longer date or marry Christian women, and that is what I want to share with you all today.
In this article:
- There Is More than Meets the Eye
- Your Pastor, Deacon, and Church Family
- Too Busy
- No Other Exposure
- Too Sanctimonious
- Outside His Social Circle
- Not Submissive
- Not Feminine Enough
- Not a Prize
- Always Preaching—Not Listening
- Can’t Date Jesus
Why Do Christian Men Prefer Dating a Non-Christian Woman | The Men Speak Up
There Is More than Meets the Eye
In my previous article, I asked why do Christian men prefer dating a non-Christian woman. Referencing some of the high profile Christian pastors and leaders who have turned to Hollywood to find their mates (Pastor Devon Franklin and actress Meagan Good, Gospel artist Israel Houghton and singer/talk show host Adrienne Bailon, Pastor Jamal Bryant and R&B singer Tweet, etc.).
In that article, I spoke with single Christian women to get the reasons they’ve encountered as to why they were being overlooked for less-traditional church girls and women outside the church altogether, as well as the challenges they face with Christian dating.
Little did I know that single Christian men would be so vocal regarding this topic. I received countless emails, social media post, and instant messages. The men were ready to talk and express their feelings regarding this hot-button topic.
Ladies, hold on because some of the answers you might not be ready for. And also, note, this is not an attack on all Christian women; it’s just the perception of these men. So please remember, I am just the messenger.
[Before going any further, I would like to apologize to the men. In my previous article, my intention was to share what seemed to be taking place more frequently in the church. It was never to imply that “all” Christian men were guilty of this behavior, so I apologize if that sentiment was implied.]
Here are the top 12 answers that I repeatedly received as to why Christian men (between the ages of 30-55) date outside of the church.
Men say they need to feel valued and needed. They claim Christian women do a poor job of making a man feel that way. Christian women act as if they have a chip on their shoulder and don’t need or want a man because they have Jesus. So, the men go where they are wanted and needed.