If you are a shy girl, dating can be challenging, especially when you have a social media crush. You do not know how to reach out to him without sounding too aggressive. Want to learn how a shy girl gets her game on? Read on!
In this article:
- Be Flirty Without Sounding Thirsty
- 6 Flirty Tips for Every Shy Girl
- Create an Authentic Connection First
- Send a Direct Message When You Know He’s Online
- Flirt with a Meme
- Ask Simple Questions to Find Out If He’s Single
- If He’s Single, Take the Conversation Offline
- Don’t Get Too Attached to the Outcome
A Shy Girl’s Guide to Talking to Her Social Media Crush
Be Flirty Without Sounding Thirsty
Do you have a social media crush? Are you wondering how to slide into his DMs and start a conversation without looking too thirsty or desperate? Maybe you’re afraid he might already be married, or you just don’t know what to say to him. You’re scared you’ll look ridiculous.
I got you, girl!
Here’s the shy girl’s quick and easy guide to flirting on social media.
6 Flirty Tips for Every Shy Girl
There are tons of ways to let your crush know you like them. These tips below are perfect if you’re having a tough time opening up yourself to someone. Yes, girl, you can be flirty without being pushy.
1. Create an Authentic Connection First
You can come across as a social media stalker if you just dive right into his DM before you’ve even sent a friend request. If he’s just a crush or someone you just met, spend some time liking, tweeting, and double-tapping photos first. You’ll discover whether you have mutual interests. You’ll have something specific to talk about instead of just saying, “Hi, you’re cute!” Your message will more likely avoid ending up in the “Message Requests” folder.
2. Send a Direct Message When You Know He’s Online
You’ll feel anxious and awkward if you send a message at 1 am, and it sits there for three days with no reply. You’ll have no idea if he just didn’t see it or he’s not interested. Instead, you should strike while the iron is hot!
If you noticed he just liked a photo or tweeted about something you like, you can slide into his DMs. Say something like “I’m excited to see Wonder Woman too! You are so dope. Hi, I’m Kesha.” Sending a message while he’s online also gives you something real to talk about. You won’t come across as doing too much to get his attention.
3. Flirt with a Meme
If you’re a shy girl, you’ll likely don’t know what to say. Well, send a meme! Find something that fits your sense of humor and his interests. The goal is to get him to open his messages, look at your profile, and write you back. Think of it as a wink to start a conversation.
4. Ask Simple Questions to Find Out If He’s Single
You don’t want his wife to send you screenshots of your conversations with her man, asking you why you’re all up in his DMs, right? So ask a few simple questions. You can say, “What do you do in your downtime? Do you have a family? What’s your favorite coffee shop in San Antonio?” Keep it casual, so you don’t look like you’re being nosy. Make sure you ask, though. Never assume!
5. If He’s Single, Take the Conversation Offline
If he doesn’t ask you first, then you need to open the door for him to ask you out. Say something like, “I wonder if I’d recognize you if I saw you walking down the street. We should meet up to find out!” Then let him make all the arrangements.
6. Don’t Get Too Attached to the Outcome
If you’re a shy girl, remember, flirting is all about being in the moment. Perhaps you’re scared of rejection. If it happens, then it will be hard to be your playful, fun self. If the first DM conversation doesn’t work out, just keep it moving.
For more tips and advice on how to slide into his DMs, watch this video from Chamar Moore:
You may be a shy girl or consider yourself old-fashioned. If you want to meet someone these days, though, your flirting methods can’t be outdated. Realize what makes a girl shy and also imagine what it will feel like for a guy dating a shy girl. When you get the answers, empower yourself. Go ahead, girl. Slide into the DMs! You may be one of the next “We Met on Instagram [Snapchat, Facebook, Twitter]” love stories.
BMWK, have you ever gone out with someone you met on social media? Who made the first move?
Editor’s Note: This article was published on June 13, 2017, and has been updated for quality and relevancy.