3. Continue to Learn
Even though there are 51% male and 49% female 18 – 24 year olds in this country (CCAP, 2012), there have been more females graduating from high school and college than males since the 1970’s …and that’s in every state and in all ethnicity groups (NCES, 2012). The black community has the largest gap between male (57%) and female (69%) high school graduates. And only 34% of black males vs. 43% of black females graduate from college (NCES, 2012). The bottom line is…women are getting more education than men. So in order to get a man’s confidence up, he has to always be learning so that what he says and does has value in the life of an educated woman. What he says and does must matter to her. His presence in her life must add some sort of value to her. Otherwise, she’s likely to put little stock in his opinions.
4. Stay Current and Relevant
Watch the news, read magazines, and articles on a variety of topics in order to stay current on relevant information for someone your age. There’s no justifiable reason why a man 30+ doesn’t know what’s going on locally, nationally, and internationally. Don’t be that-guy that doesn’t know about the latest breaking news story that will affect national security, but you can talk at length about who all 32 NFL teams should pick in this year’s draft. Just being aware of different topics will give a man confidence to voice his opinion in a room full of listening women. And the deeper his level of understanding, the more he can wax eloquently and impress the honey’s. Besides, asking a woman’s opinion is a great way to start a conversation.
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