5. Learn How to Make Good Decisions

Part of being a man is knowing how to lead. There is no greater indicator of your leadership than the decisions you make in your own life. People make decisions in two ways: intuitively (swerving when a car veers into your lane) and analytically (planning your route to drive to the store). Telling you to ‘learn how to make good decisions’ is over-simplifying the responsibility you have to become a good leader. Rather, I recommend you focus on your analytical process. If you find that you’re making poor planning decisions, there’s something wrong with how you analyze information. And that analysis is impacting your judgment about what is right/wrong, good/bad, and appropriate/inappropriate. So focus on how you analyze information! Strong analytical abilities will help you build the confidence to offer suggestions to an educated woman…and then stand by them without wondering if you made the right call…because you are confident in your strong analytical judgment and decision making.

6.  Hang Around People outside Your Cultural Circles

Sociologically, there is comfort in being around familiar people or the same culture. However, you should never ONLY hang around familiar people or the same culture. One way cultures are identified is by the way they solve problems. Thus, there’s a lot you can learn from different cultures. Expand your circles and hang around people of different cultures. Not just racial cultures, but geographical, economical, and demographically (age) cultures.

7. Be Creative with No Money

I know…the club/bar/lounge scene requires money to buy a lady a drink, pop bottles, or get a VIP table…so you can ball. But if your money is short, that shouldn’t diminish your confidence to ask a woman out. That’s when you’ve got to be creative. You still have a lot of dating-options available to you. Meet her for coffee, invite her to your gym on a guest pass, go hiking, biking, or running…or pack a lunch and do a picnic — or a free concert in your area. Playa…you’ve gotta get creative if you ain’t got it like that…yet! Being creative gives you the confidence to ask her out…with no money…and still be able to take her somewhere unique, fun, and interesting. And that’s what makes you stand out from the crowd of big money ballers.

BMWK — What do you think about the relationship between a man’s confidence and his social-game? How can a man build his confidence and get his social-game up?