We’ve all had relationship problems. I know my husband and I have. Even that super happy couple you know has their own stuff going on. And if they tell you they don’t, it’s either all a front or a way to keep you out of their business. Unhappy marriage signs are not always readable. But having issues to manage doesn’t mean a relationship is in trouble. It just means the people … [Read more...]
5 Universal Relationship Deal Breakers…Get Out Now!
When we enter relationships, we all have our own personal deal breakers. And it makes sense, really, because we all have different needs and expectations. Some of us want children...while others don’t; Some insist on living in the city...while others refuse. I know having children was a deal breaker for me. I would not have been able to marry a man who didn’t want kids. Even … [Read more...]
Being Mary Jane’s Ugly Truth Episode Challenges Us to Stop Lying About Relationships
When we meet, date and even marry, we really don’t know everything about the person next to us. We are often oblivious to the challenges they’ve faced, the hardships they’ve overcome and the difficulties they endure on a daily basis. If we were honest, we frequently ignore the outward signs of their inward pain and shame and move on with our day. Last night’s episode of … [Read more...]
Am I Wrong for Physically Assaulting My Husband?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been together for ten years and married for five. We have three children together. My husband recently had an altercation with his boss and quit. I chose to start working and let him stay home with the kids. Well, a week later, I see he searched for a girl on Facebook, and asked him about it. He got really mad and said it was a … [Read more...]
I Know He’s Cheating but Should I Marry My Disrespectful Fiancé?
Hi Dr. Buckingham, I've been with my fiancé for 3 years now. I'm only 19 and he's 22. We have a baby that's 10 months old. My fiancé cheated on me with another girl throughout my pregnancy so I didn't really enjoy it. I feel like he doesn't take me seriously when I ask him serious things. He never gives me an explanation as to why he cheated. He does not say one word and he … [Read more...]
3 Signs Your Husband Is Paying for the Mistakes of the Last Man in Your Life
Even the best of us have been hurt. There has been a man who has come along and taken advantage of or mistreated the woman he was supposed to be caring about. This person may be a male friend, a previous husband or even your father. No matter his title the common thread is that he should have been in your life to do you good and not harm. Related: If you are having trouble … [Read more...]
The Long Lasting Effects of Witnessing Domestic Violence as a Child
“Mom, what was your dad like?” I really didn't know how to answer that question when my daughter asked me. Do I tell her that my father was a monster that used to punch my mother in the face in front of me? Do I tell her about the time he beat our puppy to death (literally) because he peed in the house. Or what about the time he came up to my school and assaulted my 3rd … [Read more...]
Domestic Violence Month: Real Life Experiences & 8 Signs of Abuse
It could be the face of your next door neighbor, your mother, or the student in your class. Sarah - A bruised arm and a scarf around her neck that hides the scars where he swept her off her feet not because he loved her, but because his anger was out of control and with his bare hands he raised her small body off the floor hands wrapped around her neck. Rita – this was … [Read more...]
Domestic Violence: Let Your Sisters Know You Have Their Back
When we get married, we all plan on staying married. After all, our vows specifically say that we are in this thing for better or worse. But what happens when the better doesn’t last that long and the “worse” goes beyond anything we ever expected? What happens when we find ourselves in an abusive relationship, and we truly cannot imagine a way out? This is a reality for … [Read more...]