Dear Dr. Buckingham, Hello. I have been reading your blogs and stumbled upon one about women marrying men in prison. I'm currently in a similar situation and would like your advice and view. I'm twenty-seven with one four year old child. About three years ago, I met and fell and love with a man online. We spent time together a few times and then he VANISHED! I moved on with my … [Read more...]
Single Ladies: 3 Things You Think You Know About Black Men that Are Absolutely False
Have you or one of your girlfriends ever said the following words? "Black men are intimidated by my success" "I'm beginning to believe there are no men out there who are serious about marriage..." "All the good men are marrying outside the race" These sayings feel true, but in reality they're myths that are messing up our relationships! Let's deal with them, one by … [Read more...]
4 Bad Behaviors that are Seriously Damaging Your Relationship
If you're human, it's very easy to take for granted the most important people in your life. We've all been guilty of it at one time or another. And we can usually make up for it, if we do. However, if you're starting to see cracks in the foundation of your relationship, you should consider whether you're engaging in any of these destructive behaviors: [imagebrowser id=413] … [Read more...]
Mothers, Are You Raising Someone’s Spouse or Someone’s Burden?
A mother can’t teach her son how to be a man, but she can certainly provide him with the tools and skills needed to be a mature, responsible, loving adult. I have had many conversations on a personal and professional level in which women have discussed the challenges of being in a committed relationship with a “man child.” These type of men simply were never taught to be or … [Read more...]
How Long Should You Wait For a Proposal? I Hope Not 17 Years!
Loretta. Girl. For real?! You've been in a relationship with this man for 17 years and he still hasn't proposed yet?" That's what I wanted to scream as I watched the newest season of Preachers of L.A. Just in case you've never seen it, the hit reality TV show from Oxygen follows the lives of six preachers in the Los Angeles area. All the preachers are married, except one: … [Read more...]
Who’s Giving Your Spouse Advice and Why You Should Be Concerned
Communication is one of biggest challenges for most couples. Many of us struggle with understanding how our spouse receives and exchanges information. This of course leads to frustration. When a spouse feels they are unable to connect with their partner, they usually look to others in their circle to provide guidance. What they fail to realize is not all counsel is wise. … [Read more...]