Have black men become obsolete? This sounds like a silly question to ask until you consider that black men seem to be almost non-existent in the lives of black women in film, television and news media. But, is this true? How does this media perception play out in real life. Let’s take a deeper look. Media “Affectations” How does the media play into this narrative? In my … [Read more...]
Would You Still Date Him If He Was Black? How Real Is White Male Validation In The Dating World?
Recently, one of my single friends was contemplating what city to move to next because in her own words she didn't feel her husband was living in our city. Our city has a population of over 1 million, and it only takes one acceptable person to dedicate their future to you in order to bless them with the "husband" title, but I let her make it for the sake of conversation. Are we … [Read more...]
Single Ladies: 3 Things You Think You Know About Black Men that Are Absolutely False
Have you or one of your girlfriends ever said the following words? "Black men are intimidated by my success" "I'm beginning to believe there are no men out there who are serious about marriage..." "All the good men are marrying outside the race" These sayings feel true, but in reality they're myths that are messing up our relationships! Let's deal with them, one by … [Read more...]
Broadway Unites Outside of NYPD to Honor Eric Garner and Protest
We've all watched and listened, in horror, to the coverage of 43-year-old Eric Garner's death by the hands of a NY police officer. Outraged, people everywhere want to know why this man was placed in a choke hold and why he had to die. As it currently stands, the NYPD has take disciplinary action against the two police officers. In addition, four EMS workers have been … [Read more...]
BMe Offers $20,000 Grants to Black Men
So many great ideas start with a vision but sometimes a vision isn’t enough. Most often great visions require hard work, dedication, and money in order to come to fruition. That’s where BMe comes into the picture. This network of men operates under the commitment to make their “communities stronger.” These men come from all walks of life and hold various roles including … [Read more...]
New Film Explains Why Good Black Men Choose To Remain Single
Psychotherapist and author Dr. Dwayne L. Buckingham is back with a new film that sets out to explain why good men are choosing to remain single. The film titled "Qualified, Yet Single" is set to premiere in Washington, DC on June 21st. Check out more details and the official trailer for the film below. From YouTube: For women who want to know why good men remain single, … [Read more...]
Men, Women, And Dating
I ran across a very interesting and enlightening Twitter conversation that happened 2 weeks ago, brought on by writer and journalist Bené Viera. Starting as a few tweets about her views about the dating scene in New York City, Bené sparked a great discussion about dating in the black community, including the effects of location, upbringing, status and standards. Ms. Viera … [Read more...]
“Head of Household” – Does It Still Mean What It Used To?
by Michaela Stephens Recently I was reading an article on another blog geared towards women. The article discussed gender norms, specifically in communities of color. The big center of the debate was referring to men as the head of the household. The argument was deciding whether or not usage of this term was antiquated in today's climate, or whether it was still relevant. … [Read more...]
Project At The Brooklyn Museum Highlights Black Male Experience In America
The Brooklyn Museum is currently showing an exhibition, The Question Bridge, that shows the Black male experience in America. The Question Bridge consists of a series of interviews from Black men of all walks of life about their experiences. The Huffington Post published an interview with the creators of the project on their site on Monday. From The Huffington Post: As we … [Read more...]
Black Men Who Pray
Great black fathers and husbands do exist. Some of them write for this website, while others you will never know. I grew up with a great father who adopted me and my brothers when we were just infants. He didn't let the fact that we were not "blood" keep him for loving, providing for, and praying for us. My husband plays a similar role in my immediate family today. In … [Read more...]
Racist Or Just Dumb: Nivea Ad Equates Afros With Being “Uncivilized”
In a new ad, Nivea attempts to get men to "look like they give a damn" by becoming more "civilized" - in their words, it means cutting the 'fro. Many folks have been in an uproar about the ad, including Roots drummer ?uestlove, who tweeted his displeasure. Other bloggers have called it just plain ignorant, considering the complicated history of black hair in America. Nivea … [Read more...]
HOODWINKED
By Janks Morton One man cannot hold another man down in the ditch without remaining down in the ditch with him. "“ Booker T. Washington For over 400 years, the majority white society has used many tools to reinforce a message that the peoples of African descent are less-than, not-equal-too or not-good enough. In this modern era of information, the media, government and … [Read more...]
What Sexy Is
Idris Elba. Boris Kodjoe. Djimon Hounsou. And oooooh"...Denzel. Yes, yes, ladies. You know exactly where I'm going with this one. What woman hasn't found herself all hot and bothered by these subtly provocative brown-hued brothers? The mischievous eyes, those succulent lips, the chiseled-from-stone jawlines. Good grief, just the notion of their touch is enough … [Read more...]
The End of Men or a New Beginning?
by Delano Squires A few people have asked me why a childless, single man writes for a blog called Black and Married with Kids. My response is that I write for this blog because there is a need for male voices to be heard in conversations related to love, intimacy, relationships, and family. Last week Aja Dorsey Jackson penned a thought-provoking post that addressed this very … [Read more...]
Black Male-Female Relationships: How Do We Heal Our Pain?
by Shane Perrault, Ph.D., Founder of AfricanAmericanMarriageCounseling.com I. In my last Blog post, I talked about the Civil War between Black males and females. I must admit your responses were overwhelming passionate, insightful, clever and thoughtful. I thank all of you who read, tweeted, commented and otherwise joined in. With few exceptions, Black males and females … [Read more...]