In a small study of college-aged men, these males were more likely to rate profiles higher if the females were of their same race. Yet, those who claim not to hold a racial bias in regards to their dating preference were more likely to show proclivity toward a race. It’s interesting to note that both black men and white men, who claimed race wasn’t a factor, were more likely … [Read more...]
Black Women Can Make Anything Look Good, Including Minimalism
When I get it in my head to do something, there is nothing that can stop me. I go all in. For the past twenty days, I’ve been on an Afro-minimalista journey. I’ve always known about minimalism, but my level of commitment to decluttering what was in my spirit, in my cupboards, and in my closets was iron-clad this time. I was inspired by a For Harriet post on Afro-minimalism. … [Read more...]
Facing Forty And The Fact That You May Not Have Kids? How To Handle A Lost Dream
You've been dreaming about it since you were a kid. In fact, you can't remember a time when did not think about it. You were going to go to college, get married by 25, have 3 kids back-to-back, and then live happily ever after. But then something happened that changed all that. Oh, you did give birth to a great career, but the marriage and family still haven't come to pass. … [Read more...]
“Angry Black Woman”, “THOT”, “Bad B****”, Enough Already!
I am not sure about you, but I'm frustrated and irritated by the negative labels black women frequently receive. I’m still trying to determine at what point in time did it become acceptable for everyone, other races of men and women, children and even our men, to disrespect and disregard us. Black women seem to always be the last group to receive respect. We stand beside our … [Read more...]
New Army Regulations Slight Women with Natural Hair
Last Monday, the U.S. Army released Army Regulation 670-1 regarding a more defined set of rules on a soldier's appearance. While the regulations cover tattoos, grooming and uniforms, it is the standards regarding hair that has many Black women feeling unfairly targeted. A PowerPoint from mid-March, leaked before the official release of the regulations, shows images of the … [Read more...]
Black Girl Travel Offers Trips for Women of Color
Whether you've dreamed of gracing the sands of Egypt or sailing the rivers of Italy, the Internet-based organization, Black Girl Travel can make that a reality. Developer, Fleacé Weaver, organized the first tour, "Bella Italia" in 2006 with more than 50 participants. Black Girl Travel organizes tours to countries including Greece, Egypt, and France customized for specific … [Read more...]
I Love Black Women
I was recently hoodwinked by Facebook. An article came up in my feed about the firing of Satoshi Kanazawa over his very unscientific blog post in Psychology Today about African American women being unattractive. This news is nearly two years old and the offensive article in question, even older. But it did get me to thinking the mere notion of any subset of women as being … [Read more...]
Why Are Black Women Hurting Each Other?
If it was up to reality television, a lot of people of different races would probably think that black women couldn't get together without drink throwing, bottle chucking, and shoes coming off before someone's weave is snatched. We've debated that topic before. Many of us can accept that this is not our reality. We can get together and be civilized and not go through the … [Read more...]
Men, Women, And Dating
I ran across a very interesting and enlightening Twitter conversation that happened 2 weeks ago, brought on by writer and journalist Bené Viera. Starting as a few tweets about her views about the dating scene in New York City, Bené sparked a great discussion about dating in the black community, including the effects of location, upbringing, status and standards. Ms. Viera … [Read more...]
Are Black Women Being Negatively Stereotyped On TV?
Basketball Wives, Real Housewives of Atlanta, Love & Hip Hop, Bad Girls Club. Do these "reality" shows ring a bell? I admit, I'm guilty for watching the drama unfold, caught up in the character profiles, coming to my conclusion of who these ladies are based on their portrayal on television. However, I'm not like these women. I don't go out to fancy restaurants and public … [Read more...]
REVIEW: BET’s 2011 Black Girls Rock
After last year's Black Girls Rock ceremony, I wanted to see more. To see images like this all the time. To see women who looked like me who were literally changing the world. Kind of like the argument for why Black History Month should be abolished. I didn't want to have to wait for one night of positive programming. I wanted it 24/7/365. But alas, Black Girls Rock is still … [Read more...]
If I Had a Daughter
by Gwen Jimmere If I had a daughter, I'd teach her that her black is beautiful 366 days a year, 8 days a week, 25 hours a day. I'd teach her that she is to be proud, yet grateful, to have the distinction of being a black woman. That she is to be honored, yet humbled to reside in this hue of greatness. I'd sit her in front of a mirror every day and rave about how high her … [Read more...]
Black Male-Female Relationships: How Do We Heal Our Pain?
by Shane Perrault, Ph.D., Founder of AfricanAmericanMarriageCounseling.com I. In my last Blog post, I talked about the Civil War between Black males and females. I must admit your responses were overwhelming passionate, insightful, clever and thoughtful. I thank all of you who read, tweeted, commented and otherwise joined in. With few exceptions, Black males and females … [Read more...]
Video: Michelle Obama Breaks Stereotypes
CNN's Randi Kaye examines how Michelle Obama may help break down stereotypes of black women. Embedded video from <a href="https://www.cnn.com/video" mce_href="https://www.cnn.com/video">CNN Video</a> … [Read more...]
In Response To: (Why) Do (Some) Black Women Love Thugs!?!?
We still get comments on one of our older and more popular posts entitled: (Why) Do (Some) Black Women Love Thugs!?!?. If you haven't checked it out yet make sure you do. Recently a yound cat came by and dropped a comment and then one of our regular readers dropped some knowledge and good advice back at him. Check it out below: Brandon said: Im a young black man 19 years … [Read more...]