The Church is doing singles wrong! At least that’s what some Christian single men and women truly believe. Off the heels of an inspiring sermon that was focused on helping singles have better relationships in 2017, one young woman wasn’t impressed. There's got to be more to this single life than this, she pondered. Apparently, she feels all messages towards singles in the … [Read more...]
Single and Sabotaged; How Your Friends Are Killing Your Dating Life
Are your friends keeping you single? I know that may seem like a weird question to ask, especially because as the saying goes, we choose our friends, not our family. In other words, our friends are people who get to see us in the good and the bad, and they still choose to stick around! As a result of that connection and community, our friends give us a safe place to be … [Read more...]
Dear God: About This “Delay” Thing…
The thought of being delayed for a blessing seems to be frustrating, unnerving and a host of other feelings. We hear that “delayed but not denied” is a good thing, but that delay though? How long will it be, Lord? Why is there a delay in the first place? I encourage you to think about the delay to what God has for you as a blessing and to be thankful. If you know that God … [Read more...]
Too Grown for Games: How to Keep It Real in Dating Relationships
Tired of the games people play in dating? I so know how you feel! The modern dating culture is hard to figure out, isn't it? People make snap judgments about each other by online dating photos, dating app swipes and "good morning" text messages. It seems to all be a game, one that all too often leads to disappointment, exhaustion, frustration and even heartbreak. How can … [Read more...]
The Struggle Is Real: 3 Ways You Can Stay Celibate While Dating
You've made the commitment to God, yourself and your future spouse that you are going to wait to have sex until marriage. You felt empowered when you made the decision, but now you're just feeling...well, you know...horny! The struggle is real. You don't want to break your vow, but the gospel music and cold showers ain't cutting it. What do you do? Let me share with you 3 … [Read more...]
Single Ladies! 3 Simple Ways to Recognize Your Boaz Without a Supernatural Sign
Have you ever prayed, “Lord, show me if He’s the One! And if he’s not, remove him from my life!” If so, I’m here to tell you those words are not the best way to recognize your Boaz. Here’s why: Most women who pray this are leaving it up to some supernatural sign, when God wants you to have wisdom and discernment so you can make the best choice. They say things … [Read more...]
The Top 3 Ways to Get High Quality Men to Approach You (Advice from a Matchmaker)
If he were interested in you, he'd approach you, right? Wrong! Men don't always think like that, sisters! If you've been confused or frustrated by the fact that high-quality men don't initiate conversations with you, let me help a sister out and share 3 tantalizing tips that will turn you into a man magnet and have men approaching you everywhere you go. 1. Your body … [Read more...]
Date Him Or Dump Him? How to Decode Men’s Behavior In Dating
Everybody tells you to "think like a man," but it's hard to know what he's thinking when he sends you mixed messages, right? So what should you do if a man's not being straight up with you: Date him or dump him? Let's look at a few common scenarios: He tells you "I love you" when you're together, but when you're apart, it doesn't feel that way. You're "nice" to … [Read more...]
The 7-Step Love Detox Challenge that will Transform Your Dating Life
With Spring just around the corner it's a good time to detox your love life. Why? Because your thoughts are getting in the way of you attracting and keeping love. Your thoughts shape your feelings which in turn, control your behaviors and actions. As Proverbs 4:23 says, "Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts." (GNT) So let's identify 7 areas where some … [Read more...]
Should I Marry a God-fearing Man Who is Financially Unstable?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been saved and walking with the Lord for about three years now. Last year, I was blessed with the opportunity to begin my career in another state. There was a man at my church home who I was attracted to; however he never approached me or expressed interest in me. Because I was leaving, I decided to pursue a casual sexual relationship with him. I … [Read more...]
Should I Submit to My Boyfriend?
Should I submit to my boyfriend? That's the keyword, boyfriend. This question alone, reminds me of an eye-opening experience with my ex-fiancé. It had only been a few weeks since he'd proposed and I was still floating on air. I was only 20 years old and was a good church girl. I loved the Lord and my Sunday Best outfits followed the dress code of my church. I was very … [Read more...]
When It Comes to Love, Should You Really Follow Your Heart?
Ever heard of the phrase "Follow your heart?" We see it everywhere from the cartoons we saw growing up to lines in songs and graphics on T-shirts. It's a way of life to some people, creating a seemingly passionate and romantic way of living to the fullest. Choosing to follow your heart is a bold statement to make, but what does it mean exactly? In my opinion, following your … [Read more...]