Have you ever been with a man for a while (let's say 6 months) and he was clearly enjoying your company, but he never defined the relationship? You wanted to know-- "where is this going?"-- but you silenced your voice because you didn't want to pressure him. You're not sure how to have "the Talk," but the question remains, you're all in, is he? Or, maybe he told you in the … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Make Dating Fun Again That Actually Work
Do you dread dating because you're bored with the kinds of men you meet? Or are you suffering from burn-out and the thought of getting dressed up just to be disappointed makes you feel like you're wasting time when you could be getting work done? You might even feel bitter about the dating scene because it feels like men don't want to court you--they're rushing to sleep with … [Read more...]
Do You Want Heels or a Husband? Why You Need To Stop Hating On Short Men If You Want Love
Single ladies, I have a simple question for you: Are you hating on short men? I hear it from sisters all the time. I want a man who is 6’0" or taller, they say. I want to feel safe and protected when I'm with him. And anyway, I like wearing heels… But you don’t wear heels to bed, do you? #HollaIfYouHearMe Related: If you're single, are you the person your future spouse … [Read more...]
10 Dating Tips for a Grown Black Woman
Karyn is back on the dating scene. Divorced. Kids are grown…in college. She spent all her 20s —30s — and half her 40s raising them. Now in her late 40s, she’s on that health-food kick. She’s lost a couple of lbs. And now guys are hawking. Karyn currently falls into a station in life where a lot of women have passed through…or will pass through sooner or later. They had … [Read more...]
To Stay or To Leave Him? That Is The Question
Let’s call her Tara. Tara emailed me in response to an article I wrote entitled, 3 Keys to Rebuilding Trust After It’s Been Broken. Her man broke her trust (she didn’t go into details). She’s upset because he’s trying to make her hurry up and ‘get over it’. She also suspects he will get tired of the uphill climb out the doghouse and will just move on to the next one. She is … [Read more...]
The Single Life: Rejuvenate Your Dating Life
I've been putting off cleaning my apartment all week. I've been busy with work, family and personal endeavors and have stepped over the mess on my floor on my way out of the door to other activities. But this morning, I woke up before the sun came up, to finally spring clean my living space. I scrubbed the floors, cleaned the closets and organized my desk. I tossed out what I … [Read more...]