I've written in the past about not letting divorce enter any portion of your marriage. Some of the best marriage advice I've ever heard is it should never be spoken, used as a threat, or even joked about. That is key to having a lasting marriage. But what happens when you've done that, and you don't like it? Or, you don't like your spouse? Is saying no to divorce and … [Read more...]
Don’t Ask for Divorce! Ask These 20 Questions When Your Marriage is in Trouble
I usually receive really honest feedback from the articles I write for BMWK. I respond whenever I receive one of those “how can this help me now” comments from someone who thinks divorce is their only choice. When your marriage is in trouble, divorce is the nuclear option but there are many questions that should be asked before you hit that button. Ask these 20 Questions When … [Read more...]
If Divorce is Not an Option, What is?
For those couples who’ve decided that divorce isn’t an option, what happens when you experience those marriage valleys? It's easy to think your current challenge will last always. You may feel the frustration and be all out of suggestions for improvements—especially within the confines of a marriage. In those moments, some couples automatically think of leaving. However, for … [Read more...]
How to Make Your First Marriage Your Only Marriage
With the exception of those widowed (my love, thoughts and prayers to you), multiple marriages (per individual) seem to be a fast growing phenomenon. With the divorce rate in our country being at nearly 50 percent, second, third and even fourth marriages for many individuals don't seem that unusual. It appears that old saying “if at first you don’t succeed try, try again” is … [Read more...]
For a Strong and Healthy Marriage, These 2 Options Better Be Off the Table
It is a brand new year and a great opportunity to revive your marriage. You and your partner may have struggled and barely made it through another year of marriage. There may have been more disagreements than you would have liked and even harder to find solutions. Believe me, you weren’t the only couple last year to wonder if your marriage was going to survive. There were … [Read more...]
What Divorced Couples Can Teach Us About Marriage
In order for a couple to decide divorce is their only option, something had to be seriously broken in that relationship. That couple also had to make a decision that their partnership wasn’t worth saving. As much pain as we see from those who have experienced heartbreak and divorce, there are still quite a few lessons to learn for those of us who are willing to fight the … [Read more...]
Singles: Are Divorce Parties Sucking The Hope Out Of Marriage?
I was in an accessories store over the weekend and came across something amongst the prom, bachelorette and wedding items for ladies. It was an entire section of sashes, buttons and sayings that reflected being happily and newly...divorced. "Single again," "Kiss Me, I'm divorced," and "I'm no longer with stupid" were just some of the messages on these accessories for women … [Read more...]
‘Til Death (or Drama) Do Us Part
As newlyweds, I think it’s important for us to take it upon ourselves to put in the work to continue to build on the pre-marital counseling my wife and I decided to get. It’s important to us that we are constantly thinking of ways to continue to work on our marriage, even though it is fresh and new. That said, I was in a group that we attend with other married couples and one … [Read more...]
4 Reasons to Stop Using Divorce as a Problem Solving Tool
For the love of God, would you please stop using divorce as a way to solve marital problems!? For the last few months, I’ve been giving relationship advice on my website. People have been submitting their questions privately, using an alias to protect their true identity, and I respond directly to their email address. Nothing gets posted online. And let me tell ya…yall … [Read more...]
Should Wives Have An “In Case He Leaves Me” Plan?
There isn’t a truer statement than the one that says “in life there are no guarantees”. We can make all the plans in the world, but there are certain things we simply have no control over like illnesses, death or the actions of others. As much as we want to believe in a happily ever after, most of us still struggle with that concept. It breaks my heart when I hear wives speak … [Read more...]
Our First Marriage Counseling Session: “Divorce is NOT an Option!”
"Divorce is NOT an option!" That is what my wife and I were told at our very first marriage counseling session. It actually wasn't a counseling session, but a marriage class at our church. To us it served as a marriage counseling session. We were just over one year into our marriage, young, and completely clueless! Marriage has never been viewed the same. I firmly … [Read more...]