A few weeks ago I spoke on a panel addressing dating, relationships, and all of the craziness that comes along with love. I thought I was prepared to address every possible question, but when someone asked me what were the things I wish I knew before I got engaged, it took me a moment to gather my thoughts. I hadn't thought about that before, but there were a plethora of things … [Read more...]
Ladies, Here Are 3 Simple Ways to Tell If Your Fiancé is Really Ready to Marry You
Don’t be mistaken, ladies. Marriage is a big step. Just because he asked for your hand in marriage, doesn't mean he's really ready for holy matrimony. It’s sounds ridiculous, but some men willingly take their relationship to the next stage by proposing while knowing they aren’t fully committed to getting married. And unfortunately, you may be so excited about the idea of … [Read more...]
Dating for 5 Years and Engaged for 3: Is This Man Ever Going to Marry Me?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am getting frustrated with my fiancé. We dated for 5 years and have been engaged for 3 years, but he will not commit to me. He is constantly complaining about my lack of commitment to him. He complains that I do not spend enough quality time with him. I cook, clean, and meet his physical needs when I have time and he is still not satisfied. He wants … [Read more...]
I Know He’s Cheating but Should I Marry My Disrespectful Fiancé?
Hi Dr. Buckingham, I've been with my fiancé for 3 years now. I'm only 19 and he's 22. We have a baby that's 10 months old. My fiancé cheated on me with another girl throughout my pregnancy so I didn't really enjoy it. I feel like he doesn't take me seriously when I ask him serious things. He never gives me an explanation as to why he cheated. He does not say one word and he … [Read more...]
Are These 5 Marriage Vows Hazardous To Your Relationship?
Marriage today is tricky. It seems as if many have lost sight of the meaning and purpose of marriage and only view it as a relationship of convenience instead of a covenant with God. Many individuals want to get married. However, their desire stems from wrong motives such as loneliness, a need for daily assistance, financial responsibilities, or the next item on their bucket … [Read more...]
Before Getting Married Have These 5 Talks Today!
Preparing for marriage can save tons of heartache down the road. Part of that preparation is having the difficult conversations. There are five talks that you should if you are serious about getting married. You will have to be honest and vulnerable but you need to know this information about one another. It will help build a healthy foundation for your marriage. Here … [Read more...]
Don’t “Put a Ring on It”…Yet – 5 Amazing Ways to Strengthen Your Single Life Now
By: Aneesha Perkins The world often portrays the single life as a lonely, depressing and unpleasant experience. You scroll through Instagram and Facebook and see sarcastic memes about everyone getting married and starting their family while you’re doing something simpler like working on a six-pack. The truth is, there’s so much beauty in being single. This phase in your … [Read more...]
Master These 3 Traits and You’re Ready for Marriage
You've heard it a million times. Marriage is hard. Marriage is difficult. Marriage takes work. Clichés are clichés for a reason. Sometimes we hear them so often that it's easy to forget the truth they lay out so clearly. The coupling of two worlds into one new, whole, complete, and fully functional mega-world is no easy feat. And like any difficult thing, it takes skill … [Read more...]
3 Reasons You Need to Seek God Daily Whether You’re Married, Engaged or Single
A message my pastor brought was on how to make it through tough times. He said that we should allow God to take control because He sees what we cannot. We have to learn to trust Him with every decision we have to make. He said before we make a decision we out to seek God. So I thought I would share that we should seek him in our relationships too regardless if we are married, … [Read more...]
3 Reasons You Should Pump the Brakes on Your Wedding Plans
You have met the love of your life and now you are planning your dream wedding. Maybe it’s something small and quaint, or maybe you decided to go the big and extravagant route. Whatever your plans are for your special day, you think you are ready to tie the knot and say “I do” to the person you want spend the rest of your life with. In the midst of planning for your big day, … [Read more...]
Ludacris Gets Engaged, “She Said HELL YES!”
2014 is surely the year of wedding and engagements! We can now add Ludacris and his now lovely fiancé Eudoxie Mbouguiengue, who he proposed to on Friday to this list. Ludacris has always did things out of the box, and his proposal was exactly that. The two had recently boarded his plane for a vacation with friends, when she sees "Eudoxie, Will You Marry Me" written on … [Read more...]
With This Ring, You Were Wed: Why My Ring Reminds Me of My Commitment
Wow, a few weeks ago I was blessed to officiate my 94th wedding. There were two things that made this one really cool. The first was that the groom was my cousin. Also, since it was a family wedding, my sister and brother-in-law, who are also the first couple I married, were there and they were just days away from celebrating their tenth anniversary. Seeing these two couples … [Read more...]
Why It’s Important to Celebrate the “Bride to Be”, Even If It Hurts
So, my wedding is 10 days away. Excuse me for a moment: Yep, you read that right. 10. DAYS. AWAY. This journey started in January (2014), and here we are. Time literally flew by. I've learned so much during this process. First, let me say that wedding planning is for the birds. And, this better be my first and only wedding, because ain't nobody got time to go through … [Read more...]
3 Questions You Need To Ask Yourself Before Getting Married
Marriage is a big step in a person's life. It shouldn't be taken lightly and we all should make sure we do our due diligence before moving forward into this great commitment. The goal going in has to be about creating a great and long lasting relationship. You need to be ready to embrace all that comes with this union and be prepared to put in the work necessary for positive … [Read more...]
4 Healthy Dating Habits that Will Prepare Couples for a Great Marraige
Traversing the road to marriage is an exciting time for engaged couples, or those that are seriously dating. The days, months and even years leading up to the day you say, “I do” present opportunities for you both to decide what kind of life you will create together. If you develop healthy relationship habits now, you can set yourselves up for building a strong and lasting … [Read more...]